The Abandoned Adopted Child's Lack of Adoption Reality In Childhood
The adopted child is abandoned the minute he emerges from birth to take his first breath. This "Primal Wound" is the consequence from being abandoned by the the infant's well known and 40 week lifelong relationship to the infant's genetic and biological mother. The suffering from this abandonment constitutes the trauma termed the "Primal Wounding" that is the infant's psychological foundation and the infant's first life experience of which to compare all new experiences to being abandoned.
The adoption will be a temporary relationship that
seem fine on the outside while the adopted child is young and ignorant to the world around him and has no real or concrete understanding of what adoption is except for the adoption fairy tales that the adoptive parent's modify to make them look like heroes.
The "Chosen Child" story and the adoptive parent's countless repetition of too many adoption fictions that the adoptive parent's tell themselves and their adopted child in hope that someday they both will come to believe the adoption fantasy. Yet in reality the child does not realize that their birthday is on the same day as they were abandoned to foster care by their biological mother.
The adoptive parent's leave out these vital pieces of the child's history and omit the important puzzle pieces that make up the entire picture, leaving all realities out of the adoption fantasy story or what lead the parent's in seeking to adopting a child as in their own suffering and pain.
The young adopted child is intentionally kept ignorant from knowing any adoption truth, and only retold of the adoption fantasy, how wonderful child adoption is to the adopting parents.
Never ever is the adopted child told about the unpleasant, truth or adoption related facts, negative impacts that adopted children face daily, or their biological mother's longing, suffering and lifelong regret she lives in daily misery from adoption and the loss of her child that is not dead.
If the child were dead the mother could mourn the death, adopted children are out there somewhere, unknown to her, they may be in trouble, hungry or abused as she can do nothing about her fear and the real possibilities of the adopted child's plight.
The fairy tale adoption story will begin to fade into reality and actively deteriorate with the child's growing cognitive ability, reasoning skills and the emerging skills of understanding complex concepts as in child adoption, and most importantly what child adoption means to the adopted child.
When an adoptee begins to emerge from the adoption fantasy dialog, and see it as propaganda, programming and adoption conditioning where the adopted child has lost every part of their real self, authentic, spontaneous and true selves to defense mechanisms of coping that are mistaken as compliant personality by the adoptive parent's design. Along with the psychological mind game called child adoption, that adoptive parent's play with and on the adoptee.
The adoptee someday will emerge from this "Adoption Fog" and see the fantasy story for what it truly is.....a fiction, a fictional personality and a false identity. The adoptee may come to realize that his entire life has been a lie...that is the saddest day and pivotal point of change for the adult adopted child.
As our most undesirable, humiliating, disturbing and miserable truth is better than the most fantastic adoption fantasy story for adult adopted children.