Understanding How the Adopted Child Carries their Biological Parents Always Within Them
The dialog between the Dailai Lama and Heinrick Harrer explains how he feels about his son, that he has never known, never seen, never spoken to and knows nothing about him except that he exists.
This dialog is the best metaphor to explain how the unknown is forever known within an absent person,
that best explains how the the adopted child's gentle and reverent regard for his biological parents and how preciously the adoptee holds the idea of them his biological parents,
"as the child's biological mother and father are a persistent presence, they are always with the adopted child in heart and in mind....Wherever we go, whatever we do our non-existent parent is always within us giving us the courage to go on.
Dailai Lama: Do you ever think about him?
(Referring to Henrick Harrer's Son Rolf)
Henrich Herrer: It's not a conscious thought really, Kundun. He is always there. When I crossed Tibet, he was with me. When I came to Lhasa he was with me. When I sit beside you, he is with me.
I can't imagine how to picture the world without him.