The Reality of Difference Parenting Adopted Child
The reality of truth that parenting an adopted child is vastly different than raising one's own genetic and biological offspring. Pro-adopters want so badly to believe that adoption parenting and the forced legal adoptive relationship is the same that they live in perpetual denial of the facts, denial of lack of genetics, biological similarity as well as lying to themselves at the adopted child's expense.
Being an adopted child is a terrible plight in life, compounded by the adoptive parent that lives and breaths pro adoption as some sort of twisted religion.
The world of a biological child and parent is a normal one as the world created by child abandonment and relinquishment is the worst case scenario for a child.
Being abandoned at the beginning of a child's life brings nothing but heartache and shame to the adopted child. The only thing normal about child adoption is to label it what it truly is "abnormal".
The adopted child will struggle through childhood to mold themselves to fit the adoptive parent's idea of the perfect child in expectations that the adopted child is expected to fail to live up to. The adopted child's mistaken personality is the result of defense coping mechanisms utilized in childhood to avoid additional abandonment.
The adopting parents recount the "chosen story" for their own psychological benefit, as the chosen story is based in the child's abandonment. The more often the chosen story is told the worse the child feels as the chosen, abandoned child, bought, paid for and owned by the chooser. The constant telling of the chosen child is the horror story of the adopted child's life. When adoptive mothers constantly tell the adopted child's business, story and the chosen story to others it is so humiliating to the adopted child, especially when the adopted child is present. The adoption stories that the adoptive mother must constantly re-tell, she does this to make herself believe it, accept it and live it as the adoptive mother is constantly at odds psychologically with the adoption situation as a whole. When the adoptive mother recounts the story she psychologically needs to accept the story and does so when in doubt of her own reality. The chosen story is solely for the benefit of the adoptive parent and not for the benefit of the adopted child. The more she says it, hears it and tells the chosen story the chances that she may come to believe it become more probable.
The statement "parenting an adopted child is the same as parenting a biological child" is not true, is a lie and a complete psychological denial of the cognitive facts in adopted relationships.