The Projective Identity in Adopted Children
The psychological coping strategies and defense mechanisms that are utilized by mentally dysfunctional adoptive parents to make sense of the unnatural and compromising realities in many adopted child relationships.
Many adopted children are adopted by both psychologically distressed adoptive parents that constitute the dysfunctional adoptive home environment.
Where the preexisting traumas from previous narcissistic injuries and psychotic wounding has occurred resulting from of infertility, child deaths, and reproductive failures that adds additional and serious stressors to the fragile psyche of the wife, husband and their marriage relationship.
The psychological injuries originating from the child conception efforts that force married couples into the last resort and last ditch effort of becoming parents through child adoption. The psychological problems originate and are created by #1) the adopting parent's ego refusing to accept, through denial to accept the biological facts of infertility, #2) to avoid the guilt based concepts of taking the child away from the child's mother, #3) pretending the child is the biological offspring, #4) Projecting onto the adopted child desirable characteristics, unrealistic expectations and unacheivable demands, All that will result in failure.
As the adopted child relationship is distinctively different than biological child rearing, and the parent dispositions, characteristics and culture will eventually clash in cognitive development, maturity and adolescence the adopted child will dramatically change into the prototype of the biological family's offspring in all personal identity, behavior and values.
The exploration of attribution that is applied to the adoptive child's experience growing up as a resident alien in the adoptive home, accepting the projections until adolescence where normal biological children are encouraged to develop personal identity. In the adopted child, the development of personal identity is inhibited, discouraged and condemned by the adoptive parent's resistance to change, growth and the adoptive parent's refusal to allow the adopted the exploration of the self, normal human drives and motivations and condemnation of self actualization.,
As the psychologically compromised adoptive parent prefers developmental arrest over the adopted child's independence.
In social psychology, attribution is the process by which individuals explain the causes of behavior and events. Attribution theory is the study of various models that attempt to explain those processes. Psychological research into attribution began with the work of Fritz Heider in the early part of the 20th century, subsequently developed by others such as Harold Kelly and Bernard Weiner.
Common sense psychology
Correspondent inference theory
- stable theory (stable and unstable)
- Locus of control (internal and external)
- controllability (controllable or uncontrollable)
Bias and errors
Fundamental attribution error
Defensive attribution hypothesis
- Blaming the Victim The victim of someone else's accident or bad luck may be offered criticism, the theory being that the victim may be at fault for having attracted the other person's hostility.
- Projection of marital guilt: Thoughts of infedelity to a partner may be unconsciously projected in self-defence on to the partner in question, so that the guilt attached to the thoughts can be repudiated or turned to blame instead, in a process linked to denial.
- Bullying: A bully may project his/her own feelings of vulnerability onto the target(s) of the bullying activity. Despite the fact that a bully's typically denigrating activities are aimed at the bully's targets, the true source of such negativity is ultimately almost always found in the bully's own sense of personal insecurity and/or vulnerability. Such aggressive projections of displaced negative emotions can occur anywhere from the micro-level of interpersonal relationships, all the way up through to the macro-level of international politics, or even international armed conflict.
- Projection of general guilt: Projection of a severe conscience is another form of defence, one which may be linked to the making of false accusations, personal or political.
- Projection of hope: Also, in a more positive light, a patient may sometimes project his or her feelings of hope onto the therapist.