Psychological Manipulation of Adopted Child's Role
The adoption paradox begins with the use and socially acceptable justification for the use of the
Adopted child, that is utilized to fill the voids in life, the narcissistic wounding and narcissistic scars that continue to exist within infertile woman's psyche. The use of the adopted child's role provides the adoptive parent a temporary distraction from the misery, bordem and intolerance of everyday life.
The child's agreeable adherence to the adoptive parent's adopted child role expectation projection and the adopted child's adaption, performance and role enmeshment works to erase the adopted child's true identity, family and culture in order to perform to the expectations of the adopting family. The adopted child's role performance is not compromised until the
natural child development stage of cognitive awareness that takes place in adolescence.
The dreaded time for adoptive parents where the ignorant innocence of the adopted child's role gains social support to the adopted child to develop their own individual person through the peer support group that exists outside of the adoptive family prison.
The beginning of psychological growth and awareness for the adopted child, that choices exist for the adopted child outside of the adoptive family prison.
Outside of the strict adoptive family environment & adopted child's role, there exists an outside world where the adopted child can exist and no longer the stigmatized, scapegoat, the saved, the third-world orphan, the project, the narcissistic supply for the narcissistic adoptive parent, the inside world of the adopted child's role and being that captive prisoner. The adopted child role can only exist as long as the child is kept in the darkness from learning. Kept from cognitive awareness, discouraged from education and encouraged to remain ignorant from learning that he has choices and that the adopted child does not have to bear being, or playing the adopted child role for the rest of his life. The light of awareness is knowing that the adopted can change his plight and achieve self actualization by refusing to submit to the victim status that the adoptive parents encourage the adopted child's role to play.
The light, awareness and reality that exists from the outside world, once an adopted child catches a glimpse of the freedom that other people live by, they can't go back to being the adopted child
Through outside influence the adopted child receives self-esteem through peers in school. The adopted child begins to develop a sense of self, a sense of community through peer relationships that take the adopted child out of the condemning adopted child role, as the peer group sees the adopted child as an individual, as a contributing force in the social peer environment that gives the adopted child a sense of individual importance and group status, that does not exist in the adopted child role strict confinement of the adoptive family ideology.
Adopted children play the adopted child role designated by the adoptive parent's desires, wishes and aspirations, physiological projections of the adoptive parent's ideals of what their real child or children would have been like in personality that is always based in identity similarity to the biological parent and their biological offspring. Due to the psychological theories and laws based in similarity and applied to interpersonal relationships, biological parents and offspring are obvious and unconscious assumed similarity is biologically factual. Adopted children are different and can never truthfully assimilate to portray the adoptive family's distinctive appearances, characteristics, mannerisms and values. The adopted child's primal characteristics are based in genetic and biological family characteristics and no matter how hard an adopted child tries to please the adoptive family, they are genetic and biological copies of their own genetic families.
- To refer to the playing of roles generally such as in a theater, or educational setting;
- To refer to taking a role of an existing character or person and acting it out with a partner taking someone else's role, often involving different genres of practice;