Category: Adoptee's Search for Reason
Topic: The Desperate Necessity Of Adoptee Voices
The excruciating motivation for me to write this blog is for adoptees searching through the posts for some sense of reason, truth and trust that grows a coward's hurt soul into feeling that they are not alone in this universe. The trust that I feel growing within my psyche each day makes my daily living each day more tolerable. The community that grows in each of us adoptees through reading these precious pieces of our perspectives, that sharing is a valid, reliable and dependable , the words, phrases and personal reflections concrete and reliable weather or not we share the same whole pictures, agree and agree to disagree, the words spoken in those posts are the tiny diamond based thoughts from our inner childhoods and adult coping methods. It matters not if an adoptee reads a post, discards the words temporarily and or doesn't comment or ever read that post again. The words take time to sink in, be reflected on and become outside experiences that help us cope with our existence or stir us up to write something else, as the words of adoptees all matter good memories, bad childhoods, sexual and verbal abuse, neglect and bearings for trivial things, the words incorporate the adoptee's searching for something, and raise the awareness in the collective consciousness of the adoptee community as a whole.
For adoptees constitute a marginalized population of deprived infants that can never be healed from the abandonment and separation trauma that exists everyday and worsens into our old age. I psychologically rely on so many adoptee writers most that will never know I read their words and find for the first time in my life empathy and similarity. There are so many wonderful and critical adoptee's with specific points of view of which are all so very imperative to our collective knowledge and mental piece of mind, the contributors of other adoptee writers comes from reading many of my trusted adoptee blogger's, who pour their souls out on to the screen, written in their own precious blood....and I can never be grateful enough to these courageous adoptees that write for my benefit and the benefit of other adoptees or to benefit their own piece of mind, that like me did not benefit from being adopted.
Adoptee writers are my inner circle of sanity in a world that silences and invalidates our experiences because these stories are not always the chosen-rainbows+unicorn story. Our stories are real, truth and reality, the unpleasant consequences from the selfish individuals seeking to validate their own lives by denying our own lives and history.