The Adopted Child's Biological Family and Adoptive Family Exist Simultaneous in the Present.
The psychological awareness of the adopted child's biological family is with the child throughout his life, even when the child was adopted in infancy. The child frequently thinks about the true mother and true father, in everyday and other though provoking experiences. In absence and ignorance of who they are, where they are, the child still holds them inside in normal everyday occurrence.
In normal adoption secrecy the child does not disclose the secrets of who the child's regards for fear of adoptive parent's punishment consequences.
The Biological parent has always existed and will always exist in the heart and mind of the adopted child.
Historical Pro-Adoption Psychiatry's Adoption Behavioral Guidelines to the Defiant Adopted Child.
......Guidelines for adoptive parents to apply to their adopted child for behaviors that are undesirable to the adoptive parent, but normal in average children and age appropriate behavior in the general population of children. These guidelines provided damaging labels of psychological problems to the population of adopted children, that fueled adoptive parent's indifference, anger and repulsion of the adopted child. These "experts" assisted unhappy adopted parents in labeling the children "mentally defective" and abandoning the adopted children to psychiatric hospitals.
Labels of disobedience, threatening, challenging, contempt, disobeying, provoking, insolence, rebellion and opposition, which were age appropriate behaviors of children, became reasons to commit the adopted child to a sanitarium.
The adopted child lived with the constant threat of being sent to a psychiatric hospital, for any future rebellious behavior. The psychiatric hospital imprisonment threats caused the adopted child's strict compliance, fear based control and parental domination, that Satisfied Disgruntled Adoptive Parents........
"Acting Out" became anything uncomfortable, undesirable or threatening to the adoptive parent.
The adopted child's innocent curiosity about his own origins. The perceived existence of the biological mother make the adoptive mother feel threatened, competition, possibility of loss and fear of the unknown keep the subject of adoption a taboo.
The factors that keep the adoptive mother's distance from the mistrusted adopted child, suspicious of the adopted child whom she can't relate to, can't trust and will not "maternally invest" her energy in the adopted child.
Humiliating and Invalidating the adopted child's personal feelings and emotions by identifying biological parent regard as the adopted child's "fantasy about the biological parents". The adopted child has been forced into a foreign environment, forcefully taken from his family and forced to assume a new identity that keeps him from his real identity. The only thing that the adopted child has left is the reality that his mother, father, siblings, cousins, grandparents and biologically connected family exist somewhere, and that is the spark of hope that keeps most adopted children from falling into the truth of despair and the emptiness of being all alone in the world. To remember the biological parent keeps a light of hope for the future possibility of reunion and to know exactly "Who I am"....someday.
Adoptive parents and pro adoption institutions discount and invalidate the adopted child's private
thoughts, coping mechanisms and aspirations for the future.