Adult Adoptee's Distancing Themselves From Adoptive Family Trauma and Drama
The Adoptee No Longer Wish To Play
In adulthood, we can pretend that we are normal if we have achieved autonomy by escaping the psychological bonds of adoption's social stigma marking, assumed stupidity and social condemnation.
The simple fact that being adopted makes us a forever child that is never allowed to grow up, and is expected to be dependent all of his life.
Even if the adopted child has graduated college, he is still considered mentally inept, considered stupid and treated as such by his adoptive family. The adoptive mother is the driving force behind the intolerance, difficult treatment, injustice, and maltreatment of the adopted child. What the adoptive mother promotes is what is allowed as the biological family mistreats the outsider adopted child to satisfy the angry, tired and depressed mother. The biological children see the adopted child as the reason for the mother's despair, emotional problems, and depression, as no problems within the family existed before the adopted child came. The adopted child's abuse by the biological siblings on behalf of the adopted mother take some of the mother's dirty work away and spread out the effort to render the adopted child submissive and controlled. The mother's biological offspring resent the adopted child's intrusion into their childhoods and will always harbor loathing and disregard toward their adopted sibling.
When the adopted child can escape the entire adoptive family's controlling and punishing disregard only then can the adoptee be truly free from the mental control and punishment cycle and feel freedom from the contamination of psychological effects from the dominating adoptive mother.
The freedom from being the family scapegoat, the freedom of all dramatic actions and reactions that the adoptee knows as predictable family behavior of earth shattering problems that are always instantly created for effect.
The problem with adoptee's is the adrenaline rushes we have grown accustomed to experiencing on a daily basis no longer occur. Without the connection to the family gossip center, the antics created by the stupid and the trauma drama that was usually centered around the most narcissistic members of the family - we no longer care. We are unaware of all newly created tragedy, happenings, fights and freak-outs that adoptee's are conditioned to unconsciously crave are not missed or mourned over. Yet we know what we are missing, the ridicule, the blame and the selfish displays of ignorant rants by those that we no longer care to participate. As the adoptee in adulthood no longer wish to know what took place or who was at fault....we don't care anymore and do not want to play the game.