About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Adopted Child's Co-Dependency Grooming

ADOPTEE RAGE!

Adopted Child's Traumatic Bonding and Co-Dependency Grooming
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Traumatic bonding occurs as the result of ongoing cycles of adopted child abuse in which the intermittent reinforcement of punishment and lack of reward creates powerful emotional bonds that are resistant to change.

Adopted Child's Codependent Grooming are a type of dysfunctional adoptive/adaptive relationship where the adoptive parent dominates, controls and enables an adopted child's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, and under-achievement in life. Among the core characteristics of codependency, the most common theme is trained excessive reliance on adoptive parent for approval and identity.
"Dependency" is well-established in psychological literature. Whereas early on psychoanalytic theory emphasized the oral character and structural basis of dependency, social learning theory considered a tendency to be acquired by learning and experience, and dependent personality disorder, based on attachment theory posited that attachment or adaptive bonding is the basis for dependency. The passive dependency personality was characterized by learned and taught helplessness, denial, and indecisiveness, and was considered a subtype of passive aggressive personality. By essential feature of a pervasive or lifetime pattern of dependent and submissive behavior. The definition emphasized the excessive need to be taken care of, leading to submissive and clinging behavior and fear of separation and reinforcement of abandonment fear.
The codependency movement may have its roots in the theories of German psychoanalyst Karen Horney. In 1941, she proposed that some people adopt what she termed a "Moving Toward" personality style to overcome their basic anxiety. Essentially, these people move toward others by gaining their approval and affection, and unconsciously control them through their dependent style. They are unselfish, virtuous, martyr-like, faithful, and turn the other cheek despite personal humiliation. Approval from others is more important than respecting themselves, as they never are allowed to develop self-respect as the adopted child are not valued by society.
Compliance refers to a response — specifically, a submission — made in reaction to a request. The request may be explicit (i.e., foor in the door tecnique) or implicit (i.e., advertising). The target may or may not recognize that he or she is being urged to act in a particular way.

Social psychology is centered on the idea of social influence. Defined as the effect that the words, actions, or mere presence of other people (real or imagined) have on our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, or behavior; social influence is the driving force behind compliance. It is important that psychologists and ordinary people alike recognize that social influence extends beyond our behavior—to our thoughts, feelings and beliefs—and that it takes on many forms. Persuasion and the gaining of compliance are particularly significant types of social influence since they utilize the respective effect’s power to attain the submission of others. Studying compliance is significant because it is a type of social influence that affects our everyday behavior—especially social interactions. Compliance itself is a complicated concept that must be studied in depth so that its uses, implications and both its theoretical and experimental approaches may be better understood.