Adoptee Rage! This blog is written exclusively for the 38% of Abused and Neglected Adopted Children. The U.S. HHSA Identifies #1 Risk: Maltreatment, Child Abuse and Risk for Death In Adopted children. Childhood domination, Coping compensation. Research in Adoption Psychology, Developmental Trauma"The Adoption Paradox". By Rainstorm Red-Smith
About Adoptee Rage
Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
Saturday, February 28, 2015
Adopted Children Learn What they Live
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ADOPTED CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
If adopted children live with parents who are called their “real” parents, they learn that they came from “unreal” parents and that they’re rooted in something unreal, untrue, and unworthy of acknowledgement.
If adopted children live with labels like “chosen” or “lucky,” they learn that they were first unchosen and unlucky.
If adopted children live love defined by “your first mother loved you so much that they gave you up for adoption,” they learn that real love means being given away and to fear being given away every time they are told how much they are loved.
If adopted children live as “the answer to their parent’s prayers,” they learn that their sole purpose in life is to make others happy or risk a second abandonment if they don’t.
If adopted children live “Forever Family,” they learn that they’re like an adopted puppy or kitten, something to be acquired.
If adopted children live that finding first family is wrong, they learn that their deep need to know about their origins is wrong as well, and despair, sometimes waiting until it’s too late to find their truths.
If adopted children live with secret adoptions and no access to their original birth certificates, health histories, and heritages, they learn that they are not valued for who they were and question if they’re as worthless as the paper their amended birth certificates are printed on.
If adopted children live that adoption is only a blessing, they learn that their feelings of loss are invalid, and there must be something wrong with them for feeling that way.
If adopted children live that their trauma is real and their sadness over it is normal, they learn that their feelings are important and appropriate too.
If adopted children live with the opportunity to grieve, they learn they can survive and even thrive after loss.
If adopted children live with validated feelings, they learn that others genuinely care and value them.
If adopted children live with knowledge of their original identities, they can live authentically as themselves and not have to pretend to be someone else to be loved.
If adopted children live within an honest familial and societal system, they learn that they are more than a baby to be acquired and trust that they are valued just as they are.
By Joanne C. Currao born Tracey Elisabeth McCullough