About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Thursday, January 22, 2015

The Shame Society Toward the Adopted Child


The Collective Societal Shame Toward the Adopted Child Is the Effective Tool To Keep Adoptees Silent

The adoptive parent that chooses adoption for child ownership, companionship and care giving in old age is not in the best interests of the adopted child. 
The adopted child is the temporary object to glorify the adoptive parent's existence. 
The adopted child abuse begins in infancy as the child learns that they can't depend on the caregiver to satisfy the infant's needs. the adopted child is taught to be ashamed for their existence and is dependent on the adoptive parent to serve them.
The adopted child does not develop normal parent-child relationship as they learn that their position is subservient to the adoptive parent. The shaming is a form of psychological abuse and manipulation to keep the adopted child afraid and in fear of the adoptive parent, hypersensitive and hypervigilant to the possibility and probability of  punishment.  The Chosen Child story is to benefit the adopting parent's own guilt and shame. As the shame of being illegitimate and exaggerated adopted child's genetic parent histories will keep the adopted child psychologically crippled and dependent from seeking escape. 

Shame society

In a shame culture, also called honour-shame culture or shame society, is a society in which the primary device for gaining control over children and maintaining social order is the inclination of shame and the complementary threat of ostracism. A shame society is contrasted with a guilt society, in which control is maintained by creating and continually reinforcing the feeling of guilt and the expectation of punishment for certain condemned behaviors, and with a fear society, in which control is kept by the fear of retribution.

Western society

Contemporary Western culture uses shame as one modality of control, but its primary dependence rests on guilt, and, when that does not work, the criminal justice system, psychiatric hospitalizationand adopted child banishment.
Paul G. Hiebert characterizes the shame society as follows:
Shame is a reaction to other people's criticism, an acute personal chagrin at our failure to live up to our obligations and the expectations others have of us. In true shame oriented cultures, every person has a place and a duty in the society. One maintains self-respect, not by choosing what is good rather than what is evil, but by choosing what is expected of one. (Hiebert 1985, 212)

Adoptive Parent Relational Aggression

Relational aggression, also known as covert aggression, or covert bullying is a type of aggression in which harm is caused through damage to one’s family relationships and social status. Although it can be used in many contexts and among different age groups.