About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Friday, January 2, 2015

The Selfish Adopting Parents


Adoptive Parent's Selfishness and Lack of Altruism Toward Adopted Children

"Without the financial demand for adopted children, there would be no market"

The problem of Adopting Parent's personal needs based motivation to child adoption. The child adopted by the need based adopting parent has a doomed future, as the adopted child's "role" and purpose in life and in their adoptive home is to fulfill the adopted mother's emptiness from infertility, childlessness or child death. To heal the adoptive mother's psychological or physical injury or damage, and provide for her unfulfilled needs, wants and desires. of the psychologically injured adoptive mother. The adopted child's purpose to fix, repair and solve all of the adopting parent's problems, from their personal lacking, personal needs, selfish aspirations and self-based desires that lead to buying another mother's child.
The self-centered adoptive parent problem is a monumental bad decision that brings catastrophic consequences upon the adopted child's future. There is no wellbeing of an adopted child's future. The adopted child himself comes to the slavery market psychologically broken, physically injured and forever traumatized by the biological separation that causes the truth of the surviving adopted child's grim future of loneliness, solitude and isolation far from the only family he truly belongs to. 

Adopted Child's Genetic Clan: biological mother and father, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, maternal and paternal grandparents, their extended family members, religion, culture, values, history and most important the genetic family tree.


Adopting parents refuse to deny themselves, only to fulfill.
Self-denial (also called self-abnegation and self-sacrifice) refers to altruistic abstinence- the willingness to forgo personal pleasures or undergo personal trials in the pursuit of the increased good of another. Various religions and cultures take differing views of self-denial, some considering it a positive trait and others considering it a negative one. According to some Christians, self-denial is considered a superhuman virtue only obtainable through Jesus. Some critics of self-denial suggest that self-denial can lead to self-hatred.
Selfishness is being concerned, sometimes excessively or exclusively, for oneself or one's own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.
Selfishness is the opposite of altruism or selflessness; and has also been contrasted (as by C. S. Lewis) with self-centerdness.

Social Psychology Lack of Empathy

Lack of empathy has been seen as one of the roots of selfishness, extending as far as the cold manipulation of the psychopath.
The contrast between self-affirmation and selfishness has become a conflictual arena in which the respective claims of individual/community is often played out – between parents and children or men and women, for example.
Psychoanalysts favor the development of a genuine sense of self, and may even speak of a healthy selfishness, as opposed to the self-occlusion of what Anna Frued called 'emotional surrender'.
Psychology of ALTRUISM
In psychological research on altruism, studies often observe altruism as demonstrated through prosocial behaviors such as helping, comforting, sharing, cooperation, philanthropy, and community service. Research has found that people are most likely to help if they recognize that a person is in need and feel personal responsibility for reducing the person's distress. Research also suggests that the number of bystanders witnessing distress or suffering affects the likelihood of helping (the Bystander Effect). Greater numbers of bystanders decrease individual feelings of responsibility. However, a witness with a high level of empathic concern is likely to assume personal responsibility entirely regardless of the number of bystanders. A feeling of personal responsibility or - moral norm - has also strongly been associated with other pro-social behaviors such as charitable giving.
Many studies have observed the effects of volunteerism (as a form of altruism) on happiness and health and have consistently found a strong connection between volunteerism and current and future health and well-being. In a study of older adults, those who volunteered were significantly higher on life satisfaction and will to live, and significantly lower in depression, anxiety and somatization. Volunteerism and helping behavior have not only been shown to improve mental health, but physical health and longevity as well. Merely being aware of kindness in oneself and others is also associated with greater well-being. A study that asked participants to count each act of kindness they performed for one week significantly enhanced their subjective happiness. It is important to note that, while research supports the idea that altruistic acts bring about happiness, it has also been found to work in the opposite direction—that happier people are also kinder. The relationship between altruistic behavior and happiness is bidirectional. Studies have found that generosity increases linearly from sad to happy affective states. 
Studies have also been careful to note that feeling over-taxed by the needs of others has conversely negative effects on health and happiness. For example, one study on volunteerism found that feeling overwhelmed by others' demands had an even stronger negative effect on mental health than helping had a positive one (although positive effects were still significant). Additionally, while generous acts make people feel good about themselves, it is also important for people to appreciate the kindness they receive from others. Studies suggest that gratitude goes hand-in-hand with kindness and is also very important for our well-being. A study on the relationship happiness to various character strengths showed that "a conscious focus on gratitude led to reductions in negative affect and increases in optimistic appraisals, positive affect, offering emotional support, sleep quality, and well-being.". Psychologists generally refer to this virtuous cycle of helping others, doing good and subsequently feeling good as "the helper's high".