About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Adopted Child's Thought Process and Verbal Dialog Isolation Defense Mechanisms

ADOPTEE RAGE!

Adopted Children Psychological Isolation Process
Isolation Thought Patterns & Verbal Isolation Dialog
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Infants born and separated from their maternal dyad are not only maternal and sensitivity deprived, they are forced into the phase of self concept six to nine months premature.The forced premature self-concept
traumatizes the infant and causes the self awareness of the infant perceived as terror, grief and isolation that is eventually understood as familiar and comfort in being alone. The primary biological relationship of 
attachment in the mother-infant dyad is severed and all new attempts by substitute caregivers will fail the infant's sensory test and the infant will reject them. The only hope for substitute adoptive mothers is to form a secondary attachment that is based on food and nurturing if the adoptive mother is patient, college educated, possesses mental security and emotional stability to deal with the chronic stress of the constantly rejecting infant. The quick to react, uneducated, too emotionally sensitive and mental instability in the adoptive mother will jeopardize, risk and be under the constant threat of abuse by the adoptive mother. The life of the adopted child is of little value in contrast to the adoption industry in the United States which is unfortunate to abandoned, relinquished and wards of the state children. The psychological defense mechanisms used by adopted children to survive their adopted childhoods are confused and mistaken by parents and adoptee's as personality. The adoptee depends on these defense mechanisms necessary in childhood, yet emerge into adolescent and adulthood without the same levels of adult development and lacking the most important psychological development of true identity needed to become and grow into an emotionally normal, psychologically healthy individual.

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Isolation (psychology)

#1. The Isolation of Negative Thought Processes (Common in adopted children)
Isolation (German: Isolierung) is a defence mechanism in psychoanalytic theory first proposed by Sigmund Freud. While related to repression the concept distinguishes itself in several ways. It is characterized as a mental process involving the creation of a gap between an unpleasant or threatening cognition, and other thoughts and feelings. By minimizing associative connections with other thoughts, the threatening cognition is remembered less often and is less likely to affect self-esteem and the self concept.                     Freud illustrated the concept with the example (#1.) of a person beginning a train of thought and then pausing for a moment before continuing to a different subject. (Example #2.)                                     "Mom slapped me today for no reason"....."I want to go to the movies" 
His theory stated that by inserting an interval the person was "letting it be understood symbolically that he will not allow his thoughts about that impression or activity to come into associative contact with other thoughts. As a defense against harmful thoughts, isolation prevents the self from allowing these cognitions to become recurrent and possibly damaging to the self-concept. As the adopted child raised in a negative, narcissistic or domestically violent adoptive parent and home situation, the adopted child's feelings, thoughts and participation are unwelcome and sometimes met with adoptive parent hostility. The adopted child learns early in childhood that the adoptive parents are not concerned, interested or will tolerate the adopted child's unsolicited and spontaneous feelings. The adopted child learns to stop in mid sentence "mom I am feeling"... (above example #1.)             While attempting to express emotional concerns when the child is attempting to talk to the parent, then realizing the parent is not receptive, and changes the vocal dialog to a topic that the parent is receptive to: (Example #3.) The child is contemplating the injustice of being slapped in the face for no reason earlier today and is now attempting to discuss the child's continuing uncomfortable and hurt feelings with the now calm parent that struck him...
"mom I am feeling"...(PAUSE)...I did the dishes". 
The verbal and thought Isolation of feelings in dialog. In a normal family environment the child will feel supported and be able to spontaneously talk about feelings. In an abnormal family environment the child must make use of the isolation defense mechanism in thoughts and verbal dialog with the dysfunctional parent to avoid the possibility of provoking an emotionally unstable adoptive mother.
    

Evidence

A wide range of studies supports the conclusion that people defend themselves against threats by mentally isolating them. Repressors have been shown to process information in a rushed, shallow, or minimal fashion. When presented with some negative information, they will often generate spontaneous happy thoughts or feelings, minimizing its impact. Depressed people process information much more thoroughly, whether it is good or bad. This high level of processing develops strong associative links with similar information. When a depressed person tries to avoid a damaging cognition, they often think of some other negatively affecting thought. Evidence from human and animal studies shows that isolation prompts sensitivity to social threats and motivates the renewal of social connections.
One study showed that people would remain satisfied with their performance in the face of negative feedback as long as they could keep the feedback isolated from performance standards. The researchers would present the standards either before the performance, or after the performance but before the feedback, or after both the performance and the feedback. The people who received the standards early recalled them as well as the others, but simply ignored it. They managed to isolate their feedback from the standards thereby minimizing the threat to their self-esteem. Those who received the standards later were less satisfied with their performance, unable to avoid their lack of success as compared to the norm. This form of isolation has been referred to as trivializing.
Another noteworthy type of isolation is referred to as "temporal bracketing", in which some perceived failure or shortcoming is buried away in one's past, effectively removing its impact on the current self. This type of separation from the past can be seen in religious conversion or "born again" experiences, in certain drug addiction recovery programs, and in the throwing away of delinquent files in the legal system. These socially accepted practices effectively make isolation socially permissible, at least in certain instances; and those behaviors seem to relieve some of the stress from past events. People with low self-esteem often use temporal bracketing when describing past failures. By isolating themselves from whatever misdeed they are bringing to cognition, they contend that it has nothing to do with their current state or relationships with people.

Effect

Habitual repressors have been shown to have fewer unhappy memories than other people, but the difference rests in the secondary associations. Research of repressors concluded that they had equally strong negative reactions to bad memories, however those memories did not evoke other negative feelings as much as they did for non-repressors. The phrase, "architecture of less complex emotions" was created to describe this phenomenon. Repressors have bad memories just like anyone else, but are less troubled by them because they are relatively isolated in memory. The most current researchers have agreed that isolation is one of the more effective and important mechanisms of defense from harmful cognitions. It is a coping mechanism that does not require delusions of reality, which makes it more plausible than some alternatives (denial, sublimation, projection, etc.). Further research will be needed for accounts of isolation to be considered fully concrete. Although more definitive research is needed, there is some evidence that isolation may lead to a shorter duration of one's lifespan.