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Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
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Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

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The Distressing perpetual Outcast, and The Distorted Reality of the Adoptive Family Nexus

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The Distorted Reality of Adoption Family Nexus
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The adoptive family is not a naturally occurring process, as in normal family's natural process of procreation.  The adoptive parent's forced legal relationship with a child that has no choice and is forced into compliance with the new owner.   The assumed legal forbearance of forbidding the child and natural parents future contact is an unrealistic expectation of wishful thinking on the adoptive parent's sense of ownership is dependent on the compliance of the child by refusing normal biological urges and drives. But the adoptive relationship is based on the adopted child's voluntary, involuntary and forced suppression, repression and subdued biological identity. The adoptive parent's recreation of a new (untraceable) Identity to temporarily hide the adoptive child in suburbia for 18 years. The focus of child adoption in the United States is not based on the best interests of the child, but based In the best interests, desires and wants of the adopting mother. The mother's desire not to be bothered, contacted, scrutinized or checked up-on by the adoptive child's biological support group of parents, grandparents, siblings and the child's extended family; Which is in the best possible interests of the adopted child and cause the child to be and feel alienated from the world. Adoptee's are completely alone in a room full of friends, family, acquaintances. Especially when an adoptee is singled out or the focus of an event as the forcing an adoptee out of the crowd and into the center stage of scrutiny. The specific to adoptee's, uncomfortable, distressing, and disturbing feeling Is being completely alone in the world throughout one's entire lifetime, never experiencing the comfort of familiar connection. As the "familiar Connection" does not exist in the reality of the life of a disconnected adult adopted child.                  The adult child adoptee's entire existence, identity and "what might have been" is consistently In question by the adoptee, because the choices were not made by the adoptee that effected their personal life experience and negatively impacts their life. When you have "No choice" in the matter, it is usually based on burden, problems or bad circumstances. "No Choice"  is the platform for which the patterns of coercion and forced compliance patterns of adoptive parental interaction within the child adoption relationship.  
especially after biological reunion takes place. As the adopted child feels that they did not belong in the adoptive home or the biological home, where life went on without the missing child.                 
"The missing child" Is one example of how an adopted child's self regarded feeling of peculiarity. The awareness of being an outsider, not belonging, outcast and ostracized is the only familiar, repetitive identifiable emotional adaption that is consistent, enduring and reliable of the adopted child's Isolation.
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The Dysfunctional Family Nexus

In psychology, a family nexus is a common viewpoint held and reinforced by the majority of family members regarding events in the family and relationships with the world. The term was coined by R.D. Laing, who believed that this nexus "exists only in so far as each person incarnates the nexus...maintaining his interiorization of the group unchanged. 
Applied Family Nexus Problem Example: The adopted child becomes the Identified Problem (IP Identified Patient) as all of the family's problems began when the family adopted the child. The child becomes the family's scapegoat for all dysfunctional blame. 

The concept is similar to the 'family psychic apparatus (FPA)...an unconscious psychic basis, common to members of the family group, inducing a specific experience of belonging, the adopted child does not perpetuate the family nexus, does not perpetuate the delusional fantasy of the family nexus from being an outsider the adopted child is outside of the intimate ques from the adopted mother's demanding allegiance to perpetuating her distorted view of family life. The adopted child is not created by or from the family's dysfunction and finds the ill-behavior unjust and cruel that the child is the sole target of the mother's hostility, malice and aggressive focus. 
 Laing was particularly interested in schizophrenia, which he believed could be understood if seen from the viewpoint of the person concerned. He saw how a powerful family nexus could victimize one family member, usually a child, who found themselves in the position of not being able to "speak" or even "think the truth" without being chastised by the group. The adopted child who often had vested interests in perpetuating the family myth and excluding reality to fit in to the family. The adopted child is motivated by survival to continually fit in as the adoptive child relation is conditional and not unconditionally assumed as in natural born offspring's unconditional love relationship. The adopted child will strive daily to please, to fit in, in attempting to be an unassumingly natural child, which he is not.
The Nexus Family's View of a Family Fight, Altercation, Violent Argument: 
In Laing's opinion, 'what is called a psychotic episode in one person, can often be understood as a crisis of a peculiar kind in the inter-experience of the nexus'.
The Common and Distorted Family Nexus Blame:  
Example:The youngest Adopted child is awakened and attacked while mom was drunk, coming home late from the bar. Dad's view is you deserved to be punished because you were out of bed after midnight and upsetting your mother., The babysitter brother was on the phone all night talking to his girlfriend, he says sister was rude to mother and deserved punishment. The other sibling brother says Sister was arguing with mother and deserved to get hit. 
What Really Happened Vs. Self Motivation To Avoid Mother's Angry Focus:
TRIGGER:The late arrival of the parents home from cocktail party, mom discovers the dishes in the sink were not put away and becomes enraged at the family scapegoat and wakes her up in the middle of the night to punish her. 
EXCUSES:The brother was the babysitter, in charge of getting the youngest child to do the dishes. The other brother made a mess in the kitchen after the dishes were done. 
FOCUS-THE-FAULT: The mother and father were quarreling about the woman at the bar that the father was flirting with, when they arrived home to a sleeping house. The father does not want the mother's focus back on him for flirting with the woman at the bar. The brother doesn't want the focus on his poor skills to control the housework while babysitting. The younger brother does not want trouble for the mess he made, Blames the sister Scapegoat.  
The Scapegoat: Deserves and wants what she gets, as an outsider physically taking from others, food, money, happiness, things, energy and longevity away from the members of the stable family, Who suffers from the adopted child's presence.
Because the scapegoat is blamed the family nexus is intact without guilt and is perpetuated forever as normal behavior this family and of all families in the world.
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Often described as part of the antiphychiatry movement, Laing, struggled to see things in terms of existentialism, emphasizing the difference between 'being' or 'being in this world' and being alive. 'An issue essential to an existential analysis of action is to what extent and in what ways the agent is disclosed or concealed...in and through action'. Being in the existentialist sense means being an object for others, and having others as objects, in other words carrying a model in our heads of all the significant others in our lives. This model provided the motivation for many of our thoughts and actions, and without it we 'cease to be' in a very real sense.
It is this need for others, in order to 'be', which makes us afraid to contradict a family nexus, risking family exclusion. 
However 'to the scapegoat the fantasy system of the nexus is a "lousy hell", not an enchanting spell, and they want out...
But within the fantasy of the nexus, to leave is an act of ingratitude, or cruelty, or suicide, or murder...Herein is the risk of defeat and madness'.
 The distortion involved in not going against the nexus can force wrong thinking - leading to 'not being in reality', which Laing saw as the essence of schizophrenia; and for Laing 'one of the most important questions, therefore, is whether such mistrust of her "feelings" and the testimony of others arises from persistent inconsistencies within an original nexus'.

'Three or four people in a closed nexus will maintain a status quo which suits them, forming a collusive alliance to neutralize anyone who threatens its stability'. Building on W.R. Bion's account 'of the numbing feeling of reality that is a concomitant of this state', and on Kleinian accounts of how 'we are all prone to be drawn into social fantasy systems ', accounts of how a group's basic assumptions could radiate 'long silences, sighs of boredom, movements of discomfort...the hostility of the individuals was being contributed to the group anonymously' - Laing described how 'the energy of the nexus is used to prevent anything going on...exchanges are boring, repetitous, concerned only with trivia'.
Laing considered that 'in such a family nexus, any statement or gesture functions as something quite different from what it "appears" to be and no action can be "trusted" to "mean" what it seems'. As his associate Joseph Burke put it, in such a nexus 'a unique pattern of communication could be made out. People did not talk to each other, but at each other, and tangentially, not directly....what people said was often contradicted by the way they said it (tone of voice and/or facial and bodily movements)'.
Further light was shed on such interactions by Greory Bateson concept of the Double blind - "a situation in which contradictory demands are being put upon an adopted child, scapegoat (or Identified Patient) in such a way that there is no avenue of escape or challenge". 
Laing considered that the concept 'has revolutionised the concept of what is meant by "environment"', and that 'this paradigm of an insoluble "can't win" situation, specifically destructive of self-identity' greatly illuminated the way the subject's 'disturbed pattern of communication...[was] a reflection of, and reaction to, the disturbed and disturbing pattern characterizing his or her family of origin'. In such a light, what we call 'mental illness' is therefore perhaps more the outcome of a problematic configuration of the nexus than it is a necessary result of the nexus itself: the psychotic is 'the overt casualty of a deeply concealed family tragedy...the end-result of complex and skew interactions within his family'.
As Laing was careful to point out, however, it was not 'a matter of laying the blame at anyone's door. The untenable position, the "can't win" double-bind, the situation of checkmate, is by definition not obvious to the protagonists...The man at the bottom of the heap may be being crushed and suffocated to death without anyone noticing, much less intending it' in the wider nexus.

 Andrew Collier has commented on Laing's dilemma, which Laing himself seemed never to properly identify. In much of his writing Laing assumed an uncorrupted natural state for the human mind, and tended to condemn society for causing mental illness in rather (early) Marxist terms. He saw schizophrenia as a possible healing process, a way of working through things, back to normality. Collier suggests that there is no uncorrupted state, no normality; rather that as social animals we all need to incorporate others into a nexus in order to 'be'. We must all perhaps be 'mad' to some extent if we are to function in society, rather than as loners, but we must be uniformly mad. The nature of the madman's 'must', however, remains unestablished.

Therapy

Psychotherapy today comes in many forms, following different schools of thought. Psychoanalysis emphasises childhood experience, and left- over feelings, though Freud did point to the role of society in his later works like Civilization and its Discontents. Family therapy concentrates on bringing families together and encouraging them to work out their interactions, but it might (depending on its theoretical orientation) offer little or no support to the victim of family nexus, who may then be punished for anything he dares to reveal or hint at, and (lacking a support network) submit to silent intimidation in family therapy, rather than risk exclusion and the 'ceasing to be' that follows.
The alert family therapist will however 'avoid taking the family's side...Or the scapegoat's. You mustn't take anyone's side because then you'd be joining in the blaming...You've got to treat the family as a system, without blaming anyone...you need to make them all feel supported
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Family Therapy is obviously not a valid action of healing, as the family's motives are to perpetuate the scapegoat's position of catch all for the family's psychological trash.
The adopted child-adult must stand alone in healing from the family that created by force the child's maladaptive behaviors of defense mechanisms. The adoptive family is the identified enemy in psychological reality. The adoption family has forced the adopted child into a role of sub-human existence to serve the adoptive family's wants, desires and needs. The adopted child is nothing more than a dysfunctional object toy to be used when other forms of entertainment have been exhausted. The adopted child becomes useless as it grows into maturity, and begins to have self motivations it's his own. The adopted child is not a person, nor has potential or independent reasoning. The adopted child is an object to satisfy the needs, desires or wants of infertile women who feel cheated from not having  biological offspring. The adoptive relationship is not a natural substitute for a biological family, it is a phony, legally forced relationship that will disappoint the buyer as the adopted child's natural drive for self determination for independence begins to erupt like an unwanted blister. The efforts suffered by the adopting mother will eventually be turned into anger and hatred toward the adopted child, repressing and refusing to acknowledge and allow the child's normal progress of aging and independence.      











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Friday, March 7, 2014

The meaningless Cliche' offered to those bearing their soul of childhood's abuse

ADOPTEE RAGE!

The meaningless Cliche' Offered To Those Who dare Disclose The Mentally Crippling Childhood Abuse.
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What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger...
             ....I don't feel stronger or believe that any single victim related circumstances of my abuse lifestyle has benefit me at all.


When abused people begin the process of writing down what has happened to them, The memory becomes concrete and in the present which makes the injustice situation fresh in the mind to deal with emotionally. Especially good for adult adoptees who survived abusive childhoods that were not allowed the arrogance of acknowledging personal feelings. An individual must have worth in the first place to have the state of mind to be allowed acknowledgement from those around them. Adult adoptees that begin the painstaking effort to relive the childhood suffering to gain control of their lifetime of repressed emotions. Childhood brutality and emotional manipulative control is the best place to begin sifting through the pain. The process is not fun in-fact it is an exhausting emotional roller-coaster, to re-suffering each slap in the face, each humiliation. And the reasons why are the most stupid as why a parent bullies a small defenseless child, because they are bigger or not as smart and the perpetrator wants to dominate and control so they can feel power, pathetic power over a child that looks up to them and unconditionally loves them especially when they are beaten by their hand.

As we attempt to cover twenty years of cruelty in writing down the each injustice:
The last thing they need to hear is someone's disapproval, the perpetrator will object, call them a liar and try to make the person attempting recovery think they are insane. Some public forums are not the best place for such personal tragedy in terms of the writer needing encouragement. The writer is acknowledging their inner truth with how the perpetrator has tormented them and needs the entire dialog of what each specific blow has meant to them, in order to achieve perspective.
Readers commenting with cliche' philosophy are not reading the the writer's shaking hands, biting lip so hard that it draws blood, the tears cried so long that the eyes swell shut and crust over, the humiliated bruised soul from which the words were formed but can't be spoken from the deep seeded fear that the mother planted in infancy, cultivated in her child's fear of her wrath and continuously harvests the hatred the mother has for her child in the child's fear that is now manifested as irrational adult fear.
When I read the work done by abusive parents I am in my own protected place as all child abuse hurts me and makes me feel sick. What kind of monster could burn a baby, scald a child hurt an animal it astounds me that I am alive today and not locked up in prison for some hideous crime against all bad cruel and mean mothers. I got even by being kind to my baby's, loving, nurturing and respecting them as unique individuals. I gave freely what a fortune couldn't buy from my cruel handler. The best memory was telling my handler mother that I instructed my children not to respect anyone especially old people if they do not give them respect, and I meant it.    

















Thursday, March 6, 2014

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ADOPTEE RAGE!

Web-Based Keyword Searching Adoption Information Research
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A new word I used today revealed a plethora of "Miserable" adoption results I had not yet found. You find an excellent mix of variables for:Search/ Misery+of+Adoption. Multi-ethnic adoption misery by adoptive parents is a big list.
 The topics you don't want: -adoptive-parents, -blogs, etc.
Try to utilize the feelings you have while searching for information like: Anger+Aggression+Parents. Unfortunately
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Emotional Abandonment The First Life Experience Becomes Reliable Emotional State In Adopted Children

ADOPTEE RAGE!
Emotional Abandonment Is
The First Life Experience Ingrained Forever Into the Psyche Of The Adopted Children.
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The fact that a child's birth removes the child from his satisfying environment within the womb by biological force as the child has grown too large to continue to exist within the mother's uterus.
The act of birth, the child is being born, is a physical trauma to the infant that is born into the air breathing world. To emerge from the trauma of birth into the arms of the infant's whole self- the mother/object to which the child was previously connected (throughout the infant's awareness) now reconnects and becomes whole again. The becoming whole again means being received by the infant's whole self where the infant's Mother provides a safe, warm and nurturing environment equal to the environment of the mother's womb in the new safe outside world. 

The child that goes through the birth trauma, emerges in to the cold world completely alone is placed in a hospital crib in the hospital nursery. This child has not been returned to the safety of the whole self/mother. The world to this infant is a loud, scary place where the infant is missing half of itself. Half of the infant is gone. The infant can not cognitively understand what went or is wrong. The infant is only aware of what is missing, himself. The infant experiences no satisfaction, no nurturing from his other half, no warmth or interaction effect that comes from the natural mother's chemical hormone messages the infant has relied on throughout his fetal existence. The infant's memory of his existence tells him that something is missing and gone. Without the reunited bond between mother-child after the trauma of birth (child emerges from the birth canal) the child's trauma from birth is the primary ingrained negative experience.
Complicated by the second ingrained negative experience of the loss of the self.(Mother-child is one whole person to the infant) The most powerful message perceived by the infant is that itself is gone, the "Primal Wound" of the child is the first foundation 
experience that the infant's life is based and will build on the damaged foundation in the child's broken and scarred beginning of life. This perpetual feeling of abandonment is an emotional state that is continual throughout the child's life, abandonment becomes familiar and later provides the child with a distorted feeling of comfort that the child will recognize as a normal, reliable feeling unique and dependable to the abandoned child. 
The child's life will be centered around recreating patterns of abandonment to get the normal feeling that he knows and is a reliable core feeling familiar only to the child abandoned at birth. 
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Exploring Abandonment

Emotional abandonment is a subjective emotional state in which people feel undesired, left behind, insecure, or discarded. People experiencing emotional abandonment may feel at loss, cut off from a crucial source of sustenance that has been withdrawn either suddenly or through a process of erosion. In a classic abandonment scenario, the severance of the emotional bond is unilateral, that is, it is the object of one’s attachment that has chosen to break the connection. Feeling rejected a significant component of emotional abandonment, has a biological impact in that it activates the physical pain centers in the brain and can leave an emotional imprint in the brain’s warning system. Abandonment has been a staple of poetry and literature since ancient times. According to Roy Baumeister, Unrequited love is a common experience, particularly in youth, but affects people throughout their life.

Abandonment and separation anxiety

 Separation anxiety a substrate of emotional abandonment, is recognized as a primary source of human distress and dysfunction. When we experience a threat to or disconnection in a primary attachment, it triggers a fear response referred to as separation stress or separation anxiety. Separation stress has been the subject of extensive research in psychological and neurobiological fields, and has shown to be a universal response to separation in the animal world of which human beings are a part. When lab rat pups are separated from their mothers for periods of time, researchers measure their distress vocalizations and stress hormones to determine varying conditions of the separation response. As the rats mature, their subsequent reactive behaviors and stress hormones are reexamined and are shown to bear a striking resemblance to the depression, anxiety, avoidance behaviors and self defeated posturing displayed by human beings known to have suffered earlier separation traumas.
Owing to the neocortical component of human functioning, when human beings lose a primary relationship, they grasp its potential repercussions (i.e. they may feel uncertain about the future or fear being unable to climb out of an abyss), thus encumbering an additional layer of separation stress. To abandon is "to withdraw one's support or help from, especially in spite of duty, allegiance, or responsibility; desert: abandon a friend in trouble. When the loss is due to the object’s voluntary withdrawal, a common response is to feel unworthy of love. This indicates the tendency for people to blame the rejection on themselves. "Am I unworthy of love, destined to grow old and die all alone, bereft of human connection or caring?" Questioning one’s desirability as a mate and fearing eternal isolation are among the additional anxieties incurred in abandonment scenarios. The concurrence of self devaluation and primal fear distinguish abandonment grief from most other types of bereavement

Abandonment as a Grief Process

A grief process specific to abandonment was described in 2000, comparing its features to the grief process defined by Kubler Ross, Bowlby,
and others and delineating five phases of abandonment grief and recovery.
Grief is defined as a cause for keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret. [To] come to grief is to suffer disappointment, misfortune, or other trouble; fail.  Kubler Ross outlined the grief process of people facing their own deaths. Her framework consisting of five phases has been applied to grief over the death of a loved one.
According to Susan Anderson, what sets abandonment grief apart from other types of bereavement is its ability to leave residual damages in self esteem. Feeling left behind, excluded, or deemed unworthy by a loved one precipitates a collapse of self confidence. During the mid phase of the abandonment grief cycle, as people grapple with the personal implications of 'being left', they may turn their rage about the rejection toward themselves. This contributes to the intense depression and narcissistic wounding that accompanies rejection grief. The process of self-attack can range from mild self doubt to scathing self recrimination and leave a lasting imprint on individuals’ self worth, causing them to doubt their lovability, personality-efficacy, and attachment worthiness going forward.

Five phases of abandonment recovery

A framework describing abandonment recovery breaks it down into five phases: Shattering, Withdrawal, Internalizing, Rage and Lifting. The SWIRL acronym is designed to depict the cyclonic nature of the grief. As with Kubler Ross’s bereavement framework, abandonment’s grief and recovery phases are overlapping and cyclical, representing one cyclonic process rather than distinct stages.
Elements of abandonment's grief cycle, such as 'feeling deserted' and a sense of personal diminishment, can be aroused by many types of loss, including when a decision to separate has been mutual rather than unilateral or when one’s mate has died. These elements can also be precipitated by being fired from a job, rejected by a friend, or losing one’s home, health, sense of purpose, or identity. For example, a 'stay at home mom' can feel the personal diminishment, separation anxiety, and depressed mood of abandonment grief when her children leave the nest.

Abandonment grief and depression

Losing a loved one can lead to an emotional crisis severe enough to resemble a full blown major depression. Freud made a distinction between this reactive type of depression and a true clinical picture of endogenous depression. A significant component of grieving is what John Bowlby called, ‘searching for the lost object’ – an innate mental process which manifests as expectant anxiety, mounting frustration as the object remains lost, frequent sifting through memories of the departed, and perhaps fleeting perceptions of spectral visitations by the lost object. When the loss involves 'being left' or 'unrequited love', in addition to the above, this mental searching is accompanied by obsessive thoughts about factors leading to the breakup, and possibilities for reuniting with the lost object.
When rejection is involved, another significant factor in abandonment depression is shame – the painful feeling of being inherently unacceptable, disposable, unworthy. Depending on the circumstances of the loss, shame can be accompanied by other abandonment feelings including feeling discarded, rejected, replaced, betrayed, helpless, impotent, self-blaming, and worthless.



Post traumatic stress disorder of abandonment

Some people who experience the traumatic stress of abandonment go on to develop post traumatic symptoms. Post traumatic symptoms associated with abandonment include a sequela of heightened emotional reactions (ranging from mild to severe) and habituated defense mechanisms (many of which have become maladaptive) to perceived threats or disruptions to one’s sense of self or to one’s connections.
There are various predisposing psycho-biological and environmental factors that go into determining whether one’s earlier emotional trauma might lead to the development of a true clinical picture of PTSD.
 One factor has to do with variation in certain brain structures. According to Jerome Kagan,, some people are born with a locus coeruleus  that tends to produce higher concentrations of norepinephrine, a brain chemical involved in arousal of your body's self-defense response. This would lower their threshold for becoming aroused and make them more likely to become anxious when they encounter stresses in life that are reminiscent of childhood separations and fears, hence more prone to becoming posttraumatic.
Another factor is that insecure attachments in childhood have shown to predispose the individuals to difficulties in forming secure attachments in adulthood and to having heightened responses to rejection and loss. There is also variation in individuals’ neurochemical systems that govern the stress regulation. Depending on the severity of the stress response induced in an individual by an event (i.e. a romantic breakup), certain concentrations of stress hormones including CRF, ACTH, and cortisol work to intensify the imprinting of an emotional memory of the event, indelibly inscribing its fears and other sensations in the amygdala (to serve as a warning for future events), while the same stress hormones can act to impede the storage of the facts surrounding the event into the hippocampus – another limbic structure that records, not the emotions, but the contextual facts of an event. Individuals can pick up emotional baggage without corresponding memories of the actual events which caused it, thus setting up the conditions for the memory block component of post traumatic stress disorder.

Abandonment syndrome

Abandonment syndrome is not a diagnosis of a disorder, but a description of typical human responses to abandonment triggers. For instance, people going through the loss of a primary relationship experience some degree of emotional overlay of earlier losses which can intensify their current grief, whether or not they are considered to have post traumatic stress disorder. Almost universally, people exhibit some level of emotional response to abandonment triggers. While some are more sensitive to it than others, seemingly minor events can arouse abandonment feelings. Anderson suggests, “The raw human nerve of abandonment can jangle if in the course of the day we feel slighted, criticized, excluded, misunderstood, dismissed, overlooked, unappreciated, condescended to, taken for granted, ignored, or belittled. These responses are within the normal range. [They] can be remediated through abandonment recovery.

Abandonment recovery movement

An abandonment recovery movement, initiated in 1999, promotes awareness about abandonment and its remedies. The treatment protocol specific to abandonment trauma incorporates the psychoanalytic principles of separation therapy and the findings of ongoing studies of mindfulness/compassion training and its impact on the brain, as well as research on the psychobiology of separation, attachment, helplessness, traumatic stress, addiction, social rejection, exclusion, grief, psychodynamic and cognitive therapy techniques and other areas. Abandonment recovery encompasses a program of abandonment therapy techniques and exercises, targeted to treating the primal wound of abandonment and its aftermath of self sabotaging patterns. Abandonment recovery workshops provide experiential training sessions in which participants perform a
program of abandonment therapy techniques designed to facilitate incremental emotional and behavioral change.

Contributors to the abandonment project

People reach to out a worldwide abandonment community from the United States, Canada, South America, Japan, Korea, Australia, Germany, Spain, France and other parts of the world through a website. Individuals have the option to contribute to ongoing abandonment research through an informal process of making confidential submissions to an abandonment website. They are asked to describe their current abandonment scenarios, childhood primal scenes, and/or patterns of self-sabotage that developed as automatic (if maladaptive) responses to the underlying abandonment wound. The submissions are added to a confidential data base of personal testimonials from individuals world wide.
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