About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Why Adopted Infants Can't form Normal Attachments, The Depravity of Genetic Maternal Attachment Biological Bonding, Adopted Child's Traumatic Bond Attachment


Traumatic Bonding In Adopted Infants & Children

The birth-relinquished adopted child's first experience in life is TRAUMA, the traumatic experience of being separated and severed from their biological mother's safety. upon birth they are isolated from the proximity of the biological mother's environment, that provided the forming fetus's familiarity, comfort environment, safety, smell, voice, warmth, motion and the consistent nine month long established relationship that has nurtured and developed the fetus since the child's conception. Being born is a biological trauma for all birthed infants that ends in the biological mother's comforting the frightened infant. The infant's post birth comforting by the biological mother is satisfying to the infant and the renewed closeness that calms the frightened birth traumatised infant. In the new world environment the infant is reassured that they are safe, warm and experience the mothers smells, voice, and other vital recognizable senses by the close proximity to the biological mother. This is the assurance to the infant of it's own safety within the infant-mother-self of the biological mother-child dyad. 
The absence of the biological mother-infant-bond stability causes the developmental trauma.           

The infant is effected by the abandonment or missing biological mother, termed "developmental trauma".   Developmental Trauma is a continuous progression from the biological mother's absence, that effects the infant in a deprivational manner. The infant can not be genetically mirrored by a substitute mother, and the substitute mother can't see her own biological self in the adopted non-biological offspring.             The genetic maternal deprivation causes developmental delays, psychological damage, and future relativity is compromised by the deprivation of the maternal bond relationship, that can't be substituted with non-biological mothers. The infant's biological attachment is denied by adoption, and is expected to form a secondary attachment which is compromised by the developmental trauma. Adopted infants respond by disorganized attachment, reactive attachment and generalized attachment failure. The common type of child attachment seen in adopted infants is traumatic Attachment and traumatic attachment bonding.

Traumatic bonding

Traumatic bonding  
As seen in adopted infants, and older adopted children occurs as the result of ongoing cycles of abuse, verbal abuse and neglect, in which the intermittent reinforcement of reward and punishment creates powerful emotional bonds that are resistant to change.


Patrick Carnes, developed the term to describe "the misuse of fear, excitement, sexual feelings,and sexual physiology of to entangle another person." A simpler and more encompassing definition is that traumatic bonding is: "a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of violence."

Healthy bonding

Bonding is a normal and natural occurrence between people in an interpersonal relationship that grows over time, strengthened by doing things together, participating in major life events together and experiencing good and bad times together.

Bonding in abusive relationships

Unhealthy, or traumatic bonding, occurs between people in an abusive relationship. The bond is stronger for people who have grown up in abusive households because it seems to be a normal part of relationships.
Initially the person that had become an abuser was inconsistent in approach, which developed into an intensity perhaps not matched in other relationships of the victim. The longer a relationship continues, the more difficult it is for people to leave the abusers with whom they have bonded.