Traumatic Bonding In Adopted Infants & Children
The birth-relinquished adopted child's first experience in life is TRAUMA, the traumatic experience of being separated and severed from their biological mother's safety. upon birth they are isolated from the proximity of the biological mother's environment, that provided the forming fetus's familiarity, comfort environment, safety, smell, voice, warmth, motion and the consistent nine month long established relationship that has nurtured and developed the fetus since the child's conception. Being born is a biological trauma for all birthed infants that ends in the biological mother's comforting the frightened infant. The infant's post birth comforting by the biological mother is satisfying to the infant and the renewed closeness that calms the frightened birth traumatised infant. In the new world environment the infant is reassured that they are safe, warm and experience the mothers smells, voice, and other vital recognizable senses by the close proximity to the biological mother. This is the assurance to the infant of it's own safety within the infant-mother-self of the biological mother-child dyad.
The absence of the biological mother-infant-bond stability causes the developmental trauma.
The infant is effected by the abandonment or missing biological mother, termed "developmental trauma". Developmental Trauma is a continuous progression from the biological mother's absence, that effects the infant in a deprivational manner. The infant can not be genetically mirrored by a substitute mother, and the substitute mother can't see her own biological self in the adopted non-biological offspring. The genetic maternal deprivation causes developmental delays, psychological damage, and future relativity is compromised by the deprivation of the maternal bond relationship, that can't be substituted with non-biological mothers. The infant's biological attachment is denied by adoption, and is expected to form a secondary attachment which is compromised by the developmental trauma. Adopted infants respond by disorganized attachment, reactive attachment and generalized attachment failure. The common type of child attachment seen in adopted infants is traumatic Attachment and traumatic attachment bonding.