The Genetic Family's Health History
In Adopted Child/Adult Adoptee
The Blank Slate Theory of adopted Infants and children, Is proved over and over a blatant LIE, Misconception and ignorant by choice of the people, and adoptive parents that refuse to accept and deny the truth.
The Disturbing Fantasy of Adoptive Mother's.......
that their Adopted newborn infants are equal to freshly hatched sponges ready to absorb the life forces of their adoptive mothers. The magical strength of the adoptive mother's love, can conquer any problem in the adopted infant's life and is all the adopted child needs to live a successful life.
These false hopes, unrealistic expectations and an outright denial of the real world's reality.
The reality that the adopted child entered the world with a real and valid relationship with their genetic biological mother, genetic family and their biological ancestral line past present and future. The ancestral line throughout history, is where the adopted child's genetic history can be found, and where the adopted child belongs in adulthood and in reality.
As the principle of child adoption is a temporary time-sensitive placement by care-giving adoptive parents during the years of childhood. When the adopted child reaches the "age of majority" (18 years old) they have the right to return to their biological roots to properly establish the necessary personal identity.
The establishment of "true genetic identity", can only be achieved by the assistance of the genetic paternal and maternal biological family. The biological family
possess the vitally needed information, that has been denied during childhood. The goal of re-establishing relationship connections with the biological family, bring healing, acceptance and genetic health history. Through painstaking efforts and documentation, in the relationship building process, the adopted child/adult adoptee begins to outline the basic family outline through asking questions and documenting answers. The adoptee begins to form impressions about the deceased family members through the recollections of elderly biological family members.
The individual accounts of individual family memories
overlap, repeat and are vastly different. The task of documenting family health history takes years of interviews, mortality & ancestral research, obituary, births and deaths. It is difficult to narrow down diseases without birth, medical, and other records including death certificates as some will list all diseases a person suffered from. Creating a genetic medical history takes years of asking questions and writing down everything that is said, while building and maintaining renewed genetic relationships is an essential part of adopted child healing
The misconception that you are just contacting your biological family for medical history, and/or to get closure is the dread of the adoptive parent. As the adoptive parent spends years vilifying these biological parents, family members and refuse to share the adoptee with the threatening biological family. In reality the hope of sharing two sets of parents should be a serious kindness, but the selfish ego will not allow such acceptance.
The adoptive parent's allowable reason for the adoptee's contacting their biological parents, Is to get the genetic family's health records and to have Closure.This is a completely false chain of reasoning!
As the family's genetic medical record does not exist until the adoptee spends years creating biological family relationships, building trust and along the way the genetic medical history emerges...The only closure that might occur is the closing of the adoptive relationship if the adoptive parent was narcissistic, dominating or forbid the adoptee from searching.