The Forever Family Marketing Reality of Child Returns
The fact that not all adoptions fit the false marketing phrase of "Forever Family." Some adoption agencies are now legally incorporating adoption return policies and wrongful adoption clauses in adoption paperwork to give the happy prospective adopting couple an out. These new adopted child return policies and practices put into place by adoption agencies that accommodate the unsatisfied or unhappy placements to adopting parents, are reflecting the realistic behavior in adopting practices. From the trending statistics that are individual and confidential to each private child placing agency, the returning of adopted children to the agencies that contracted their original adoptions, guarantee their choice of placement.
The various reasons adoptive parents decide that the placed adopted child was a bad match, the child is genetically damaged, the child's current or future healthcare needs, or the adopted child's emotional damages and challenges far exceed the expectations of the prospective adoptive parents. The fact that is and has been always ignored by adopting parents and adoption agencies...that the child is a blank slate has now been scientifically proven wrong. The adopted child's genetics are contributing factors to potential problems. When an adopted child develops childhood
illnesses or diseases like Leukemia, they can be returned to the adoption agency and the adoptive parent's are no longer held liable for their care.
Most adoptive parents returning adoptive children
did not anticipate, expect or tolerate a sick adopted child. As the unforeseen illness is the fault of the child and not the liability of the adoptive parent. It would be more logical for the adoptive parent to sue the adopted child for medical related financial damages, however adopted children come with no resources to pay, only their indentured servant status that can not pay it's own way. The adopting parent's are really the victims in these cases, as they went out to acquire a genetically healthy adopted child, and the child gets sick on them resulting in financial hardships, emotional cost and the adopting parent's becoming psychically and emotionally exhausted by the whole illness problem. The adopting parent's did not agree to adopt a sickly child or did not agree to the burdens of a developmentally disabled child's burden. The purpose of adoption is to fulfill the needs of the adopting mother.,The adopting mother's reason to adopt a child, in the mother's anticipation of adoption is to acquire a healthy, thriving and problem free adopted child, where the child does not meet these expectations, the adopting parents can fall back
on the adoption agency's return policy. The unfair demand on the adopting parent's expected long term commitment of a lifetime agreement caring for a special needs child far exceeds the adoption plan and is far more of an unrealistic commitment than the adoptive parents signed on for.
The adopted child returning plan by agencies is to relieve the adoptive parent's adoption misery, from unhappy, unfulfilled and down right angry adoptive parents that are dissatisfied by the agency's child placements. Now the adoption re-homing and sending the child back, is out of the shame closet and coming into mainstream practice as a truth for all people to acknowledge, that not all adoptions work out, not all adoptions result in forever families and with the new practice of legitimate and legal child returns.
Although adoption agencies are guaranteeing the satisfaction of adoptive parents, still no legal recourse for returned adopted children exist. Once we understand the basic premise of adopting parents motivations for adoption, we will begin understand the ugly truth of abandoning children and adopting children statistics out in the open.