The Abandonment Foundation in Adopted Infants
The Abandonment trauma of a newborn infant begins at the severing the maternal bond in the mother-infant-dyad, when the infant is taken from the presence of the infant's mother, never to return.
The infant's biological and chemical relationship with the infant-mother dyad has developed from from day one at conception. The dyad operates as a single unit
giving nutrients and providing a safe nurturing environment to help the fetus reach full potential in utero, and the dyad prepares the infant for birth and outside oxygen breathing, growth unencumbered by uterine space by the mother's intuitive nurturing outside of the womb. The infant will need several months to safe separation and recognition of the self emerges in time as an individual entity recognizes itself as a distinctive part but separate, still within the safety of the mother-child dyad. The process of the child's individual growth within the mother-child-dyad takes a minimum of two years for self exploration within the proximity of the mother's safety. This is a simple summary of the vast and complicated system of the mother-child dyad.
Back to the beginning, the child is born and wisked away from the mother-infant dyad. all of the essential and necessary processes of growth are ignored and the child is deprived of the necessary, natural and essential processes within the maternal bond. The child is forced prematurely into self recognition, which is non verbal and the infant can only process what has happened as a terrible trauma to the infant's psyche.
The infant's life experience foundation is now a traumatic event, the longer the infant is kept away from the infant-mother dyad the trauma perpetuates,
and continues to prolong this traumatic experience of separation. Although the adoption personnel have no plans to reunite the infant-mother-dyad, the infant holds out waiting for mother to return and she does not. The trauma of separation continues and the child's foundation in life is a traumatic feeling without words to comprehend what or why, it simply is.....Life began in trauma, all future experiences will be mentally processed against the separation trauma, the child's life experience foundation of trauma, which all things will be compared against this trauma forever. The trauma began as the first life experience and due to the non-verbal nature, the trauma is a physical and mental expression of pain, fear, depravity and suffering. All new experiences will be compared to the trauma pain the child suffered from. The trauma is the child's basic and unforgettable experience of their own life's beginning. The trauma is ingrained into every cell in the child's body to be always referred to as bad, distressing and intolerable, to never forget this life changing event forever.
There is no psychological therapy or even shock therapy can alter this prominent pre-verbal memory
that lies at the heart of every adopted child. No good deeds or great adoptive parents can cleanse or erase the birth separation trauma (Primal wound) from the adoptee's cellular memory. The trauma will always be there, and the antisocial behavior that is a consequence of this trauma, can not be forgotten, not will the brain and body let the trauma be erased. What happened to the abandoned infant is not supposed to be erased as mothers and their children are not supposed to be separated for any reason.
No matter how bad a person the mother is or was, separating infants from their mothers in against nature and is an abomination to the basic human instinct. Child adoption is not natural, and adopted children will never be better off, even when abuse is present. Adoption is a practice for making money, not finding homes...The adoptive parent's perpetuate the suffering of infants by their demand for human infants, without the demand for human offspring there will be no adoption.