About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Saturday, December 6, 2014

The Abandoned Child's Journey Home


The Abandon Child's Journey Home

A Twenty year old woman moved away from home, to another state in pursuit of a married man. Through the year long relationship, the married man ended the affair and sent the young woman home. The woman returned home to her family and took a factory job building circuits. She was drowning her sorrows with a long-term friend that was getting married, and became pregnant. She told the man about her pregnancy one time and avoided him throughout her pregnancy to avoid any protest to the adoption. The woman chose adoption to avoid the shame of being an unmarried pregnant woman who was "spoiled" but she received more grief knowing that she had abandoned her child to work in a factory. She never went to college, never created or educated herself or made the sacrifice of her own flesh a worthy cause.
She gave birth immediately relinquishing the child to Ward-of-the-state status who languished in foster care for six months to be adopted by a family to replace the family's stillborn infant, that did not work out for the replacement child.
Within a year of abandoning the child, the woman 
married, had two children and continued to do factory work but chose the swing shift. As she was so broken by abandoning her child, she did not feel worthy to raise her children born in marriage. The children were raised by caregivers, babysitters, aunts and grandparents. In her son's teenage years, he fathers his girlfriend's baby. The mother never says a word about her child abandoned to the state, and the young kids abandon their newborn child to the state.
Twenty years later the abandoned child shows up,
the woman is horrified about being found and tells her children about the abandoned child. They feel betrayed and the entire group ignores and shuns the abandoned child except the mother's sister the abandoned child's biological aunt. The aunt becomes the psychological mother to the abandoned child, and through time a prosperous close relationship is established where the adoptee feels her first feeling of trust in her biological aunt., As the pregnancy and abandonment had a serious and traumatic impact on the younger sister. Who searched faces in crowds for the lost and held out hope that someday she would be reunited with the long ago abandoned child. The adandoned child for the first time felt like home in the arms of her biological aunt.