Specific Cause and Effect of Unrealistic Relationship Adaptions in Adoptive Parents __________________________________________
the adoptive family's views, norms, preferences and standards.
This is one place where the fit between adoptive parents and child does matter.
Biological parents readily recognize their own behaviors and temperament in their biological children,
which might lead to compassion and acceptance of biological child's shortcoming.
The severe over-reaction of adoptive parents at elements of themselves they can't relate to the
adopted child's severe difference, resulting in adoptive parent's indifference toward the adopted child.
Adoptive parents are, with good reason, often bewildered.
The child has different abilities and interests than they have, they seem to relate to other children in a
manner that is unfamiliar;
Their spontaneous reactions to shock or frustration seem strange.
At this stage the child is being tested hard by his social field.
When he goes home and relates this, he or she needs every bit of validation by mirroring in hearing,
“You’re okay.”, that is available.