About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Monday, December 1, 2014

Manipulation by Adoptive Parents


Manipulation By Adoptive Parents


The boasting and bragging by arrogant or manipulative people has been sent up on stage since the first appearance of the alazon - 'a stock character in Greek comedy'. Inflated praise in the form of flattery and puffery has a similarly lengthy history.
Amplifying achievements, obstacles and problems to seeking attention is an everyday occurrence, as 'in exaggerating what one feels by magnifying the emotional expression: this is the ploy used by the six-year-old who dramatically twists her face into a pathetic frown, lips quivering, as she runs to complain to her mother about being teased'.
Exaggerating is also a type of deception as well as a means of malingering - magnifying small injuries or discomforts as an excuse to avoid responsibilities.

Cognitive distortions

Cognitive behavioral therapy views magnification (as opposed to minimization) as unconscious, unrealistic mental processing or cognitive distortion, which can take the form of probability overestimation or of catastrophizing. This is better known as 'making a big deal out of nothing.' 'Whereas probability overestimation refers to exaggerating the "likelihood" of an event, catastrophizing refers to exaggerating the "importance" of the event'. Closely related 'is overgeneralizing, where one takes a single negative event and see it as a never-ending pattern of defeat'.
Another form of cognitive exaggeration is inflation of the difficulty of achieving a goal after attaining it, possibly to improve self esteem.
In depression, exaggerated all-or-nothing thinking can form a self-reinforcing cycle: 'these thoughts might be called emotional amplifiers because, as they go around and around, they become more intense....Here are some typical all-or-nothing thoughts:
  • My efforts are either a success or they are an abject failure
  • I am/other people are either all good or all bad
  • if you're not with us, you're against us'.


Psychoanalysis considered that 'if neurotic exaggerations - namely, attitudes in which a relatively harmless thing is emotionally overvalued - are analyzed, the results demonstrate that they are derivatives of something that has been repressed...displacement. Thus for example a conflict over ambivalence may be resolved by this means: 'The subject's hatred of a person whom he loves is kept down by an exaggerated amount of tenderness for him'.
The grandiose sense of self-importance observed in narcissists also uses exaggeration to thwart any recognition of fallibility, 'any step towards help....The grandiose side of the self always steps in at such a moment and exaggerates the truth, saying something like, "You see? Everything you've done is absolutely hopeless'.
"Self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion" can be observed in those with histronic personality disorder and other Cluster B personality disorders; while "catastrophizing" is associated with depressive behavior – focusing on the worst possible outcome, however unlikely, or thinking that a situation is unbearable or impossible when it is really just uncomfortable.

M√ľnchausen syndrome by proxy

M√ľnchausen syndrome by proxy is a controversial term that is used to describe a behavior pattern in which a caregiver deliberately exaggerates, fabricates, and/or induces physical, psychological, behavioral, and/or mental health problems in those who are in their care.


Alarmism is excessive or exaggerated alarm about a real or imagined threat e.g. the increases in deaths from infectious disease.