Exiled Mother Voices
Thoughts from birth mothers.................
"When a mother is forced to choose between the child and the culture, there is something abhorrently cruel and unconsidered about that culture. A culture that requires harm to one's soul in order to follow the cultures prescriptions is a very sick culture indeed. This 'culture' can be the one a woman lives in, but more damning yet, it can be the one she carries around and complies with within her own mind....." -- Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
"This story of [ancient] ritual sacrifice of a virgin closely matches a ritual sacrifice practiced in the United States and in some other countries - that is the ritual sacrifice of a family that is not of the 'family-unit' type. In a patriarchal culture where people believes it is inevitable, a pregnant mother is lured into the trap. She is 'counseled' and groomed for the sacrifice. She is called a 'not-mother' or 'birthmother' (sacrificial 'offering' ) well in advance. The people she trusts believe they must go through with it or their 'people', their culture, will perish. If they do not sacrifice this mother-and-child, there will be more instances of family that are not 'family-units' - there may be grandparents helping to raise their grandchildren, there may be single fathers taking responsibility for their children. The mother who does not comprehend the real truth behind the biased 'adoption language' - and who does not have the opportunity to overhear the true motives of the 'adoption counselor' - may not extricate herself from the situation in time. The 'birthmothers sacrifice' will please the gods and the people will profit from a great harvest - the harvest of a human baby for adoption. " -
"I like to use the word "repatriation" rather than "reunion" to describe the return to my family. Repatriation is to restore or return to the country of origin, allegiance, or citizenship - like prisoners of war going back to their country. Few in our society comprehend what it's like to experience and survive something like war and few in society comprehend what it's like being separated from family to be used for adoption." - An Adoptee
"The war against illegal plunder has been fought since the beginning of the world. But how is... legal plunder to be identified? Quite simply. See if the law takes from some persons what belongs to them, and gives it to other persons to whom it does not belong. See if the law benefits one citizen at the expense of another by doing what the citizen himself cannot do without committing a crime. Then abolish this law without delay ....... If such a law is not abolished immediately it will spread, multiply and develop into a system." - Frederic Bastiat, French author of "The Law" (1848)
Adoption - Voluntary relinquishment?
"...How many child relinquishments have resulted from something other than a conscious, voluntary decision? The answer is deeply disturbing. For by delving extensively into the matter, it is possible to compile a sustantial body of evidence identifying the troubling influence traditionally exerted upon child relinquishments by such forces as punishment, coercion, shamings, biased counseling, legal disenfranchisement of parents from their offspring, and numerous other forms of manipulations and pressure. As the available data is assembled, one very unpleasant conclusion eventually stands out: that the reigning myth of American adoption has been that of the voluntary relinquishment of children by their [natural] parents for placement in new families." p.41-42 Adoption in America:Coming of Age, Hal Aigner (Paradigm Press,1992) Larkspur, California