The Adopted Child's "Isolation Conditioning"
The Adopted Life In Preferred Solitude
Adopted children severed from their biological mother's protective and nurturing dyad, and forced premature (6 months) self recognition forces the infant into a self isolation state that is not part of human socialization but for adopted children solitude is the norm.
What makes it worse is the submersing of an adopted child into large chaotic families. We are conditioned from birth to be loners, to be content being alone, and the damage from mother-child-dyad separation causes damage to our social psyche. We do not know why we can't fit in, as we do not want to, it is not natural to us to be forced into a group is a violation to our "isolation conditioning" learned at birth, all that we know is self-preservation and self soothing alone on our own to self protection and self comfort.
Adoptee's find peace and happiness in solitude and being forced to participate in society is a burden.
We do not want to participate in group activities or community events as it is counter to our conditioned nature. Adoptee's prefer one-on-one relating or one side relationships as we trust no one, and endurring the test of time for adoptee's is not in our nature. The test of time is something so foreign to us that we sometimes play along as a sort of social experiment.
Adoptee's can't relate to other people as we were never afforded genetic mirroring and adoptive parent's lack of the understanding or motivation of genetic mirroring and it's role in learning apathy. The adoptive parent cant mirror the adopted child as the non-biological parent cant see themselves in the adopted child's behavior, mannerisms or appearance so the genetic mirroring that leads to apathy does not work in the adoptive parent-child relationship. The adoptive parent relies heavily on their own love for the adopted child, which does not satisfy the adopted child's needs. The adopted child's psychological needs can not be satisfied by adoptive parents, the adopted child can only be satisfied by his own genetic parents, which is impossible, so the adopted child goes through life without having his needs met and expecting not to have his needs met by others. But the adoptee's attempts to be satisfied by others are a vicious cycle of failure. No one person among adults can satisfy all of the needs of one person, it is impossible...That is why normal people have friends and spouses to fulfill the entire spectrum of a single person's needs. The adopted child goes through life searching for their needs to be fulfilled but their needs can't be met as they were deprived at birth and are changed due to the depravity. The maternal depravity is the basic insult to the adopted child's spoiled foundation. The adopted child's foundation to relate to others in ruined from the beginning or at birth, and they can never find the answers to what they seek. The adopted child'a broken foundation is the place where they grow and all life experience comes from their broken beginning which is a detrimental experience to base an entire lifetime from. The adopted child does however find comfort in the isolation from people, In that the people are the enemy, the authority that control the adopted child and further render him damaged. The answer for the adopted child's mind-body safety is distance from those that attempt to control, that dominate the adopted child's freedom to exist, in isolation we find freedom from the society that damaged us in the beginning, freedom from further damage, psychological pain and guilt. The freedom in isolation is a freedom where an adoptee is simply himself, being who he can without the master and servant relationships that further demise his slim existence.