The Psychology of the Replacement Child
The death of a child at birth and in infancy leaves behind a void in that child's potential life, where the child's life should have existed.
The adoptive mother's refusal to grieve for the lost child can be satisfied
by the adoptive mother taking away the biological child and child's life from another mother through adoption. The biological mother that didn't deserve her newborn baby, is given to a deserving adoptive mother that suffered the extreme life threatening loss of her baby at birth, so the grief from that loss can be assigned or placed to a more deserving or deserving of grief, pain and suffering in the mother that put her child up for adoption.
Adoption's Psychological Transference of grief:
The psychological transfer of a mother's stillbirth grief is perceived to be transferred by the adoptive mother to the biological mother, so the adoptive mother can begin parenting a new live child. The compensating for grief is psychologically provoking of psychopathy. As both bio mother and adoptive mother will grieve for both dead children. Yet the adoptive mother's denial of grieving and perceived transfer of hurt to where it belongs is cruel and counterproductive, as her grieving will be realized in the adopted child's inability to form attachment bonds and later in life with the inability to form an independent identity, and in adulthood with the plethora of defense mechanisms mistaken for the adopted child's personality. The adoptive mother will possess the adoptive child but be mentally unable to parent the adopted child and the replacement adopted child will serve as a reminder of the dead child with her cries, and needs that at many times overwhelms the adoptive mother with anger, detest and repulsion of the adopted child's presence.