The Problem With Adopted Child Studies & Results
For the adult adoptee seeking answers to the individuals obvious negative affectivity, and the multitude of drama related trauma from the adoptive family relationships. The serious and complexed defense coping mechanisms learned and utilized for survival to fulfill the adopted child role, frequently mistaken as the adopted child's personality. The reality of the adoptee's many psychological wounds related to the adopted individual's adoption related relationships and the taboo and forbidden biological relationships that coexist in the reality of the adoptee.
The secret, precious, and forbidden relationships that are kept safely hidden from the intrusive, controlling adoptive mother's domination. The triangulation utilized by the venomous adoptive mother's gossiping guilt trips, belittling criticisms, and developmental arrest to keep the adopted child forever her dependent victim, while the escape plan is hatched in the mind of the adoptee when the shrinking confounds of the adopted child's psychological prison of adoption becomes intolerable. The adopted child emerges into adulthood unprepared with abnormal role models, and without any representation of what constitutes a normal relationship and not knowing what or how to conduct normal, polite, or empathetic relating to other persons. As the adopted child is like a prisoner raised in isolated custody and at some point set free in the middle of a busy society.
The seeking adoptee is virtually unaware of the enormous library of information about adopted children, adopted adolescents, adult adoptees, adoption psychology, adoption related sociology, sociology of the adoptive parent and adoption science in general that exists. The plethora of adoption studies in the forms of adopted child information studies and adoption related education and scientific methods used.
The problem exists with adoption studies of adopted children under eighteen are not the words of adopted children, but the words of adoptive parent on behalf of the individual adopted child being studied. Usually the controlling adoptive mothers that fill out these study forms or are interviewed by study officials instead of the adopted child and the adopted child's true feelings are changed to reflect the bias of the adoptive parent, that wants to be presented in a "savior's" light. Most studies accept the biased adoptive parent's testimony which is not a true scientific method result.
There are many problems when studies use second hand information, especially negative or positively biased. The adoptive parent's intrusive nature of speaking for the adopted child taints studies and nullifies scientific methods completely.
The adoptive parent sees the adopted child as an extension of themselves, and not an individual human being with their own voice and opinions.
Most adopted children are expected to blend with the adoptive family, accepting the parent's views, opinions and values. Usually the adopted child is the complete opposite even though they were raised in the adoptive family's environment, including their political affiliations, religious organizations, etc. It is not until an adult adoptee emerges from
"the adoption fog" that they can critically observe the motivations for why they act and behave in certain ways around their adoptive family, Versus when they are in their own self-made environments that provide the self-esteem that are free from the adoptive parent's influence, persuasion and coercion of the adoptive parent's domination.