Adopted Child Attachment Depravity Becomes the Comfort Zone in Solitude
It is ironic that the adoptive parents that demand possession of other mother's biological offspring, that deprives the infant of her biological mother's proximity and nurturing provided by that signature maternal bond. The adoption possession of the alien child, and the alien child's resistance to the substitute. Adoptive parent's believe that their feeding and caregiving constitutes a bonding relationship, however the infant is suffering the single most traumatic event and grieving the effects of the paramount loss that will effect their entire life. There is no pre-trauma reference point in the infant's life, the infant was connected to their biological mother and the birth process occurred that separated the child from their self, the post-birth mother-child-dyad. They were separated, isolated and forced to suffer premature independence six months early, and psychologically unprepared to be an independent entity. Attachment with the substitute caregiver will fail, and the adoptive mother's resentment will grow into intolerance throughout the years. The independent child will always feel that something essential is missing. The child will become his oinly friend and the world will continue to be host of hostile conditions where other people essentially are the problem to the adult adoptee. The misery of solitude and isolation becomes the adopted child's only comfort. The adoptee cant fathom the struggles of others as the adult adoptee is the true alien among other humans and human groups.