Adopted Child's Beginning of Life In Trauma.
Biological Parenting, Self-Actualization & Potential,
Absent in Adopted Child's Experience
The adopted child is rejected, resulting in Maternal Depravity that becomes the infant's foundation in life. The separation trauma and resulting maternal depravity alters the newborn child's brain chemistry of neuron connection development compensating and complicating the negative odds for future attempts to attach to a new caregiver and brain dysfunction compromises the cognitive and psychological brain development that can not be recovered from the deprived state of the infant's developing brain.
In the literature below we can see how normal biological functioning through stages of development.
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs is interrupted in an infant that is isolated and removed from it's whole self (The mother-Infant-Dyad) causing the interruption in the hierarchy stages. The first stage is the "Psychological Stage" of pregnancy and birth of the infant in the infant-mother-dyad. This stage belongs first before the "Safety Stage" for the important reason that the Mother-Infant-Dyad is the foundation for the psychological proximity, well-being and future psychological behavior of the newborn provided by the infant-mother-dyad's proximity. The second stage is "Safety" where through two plus months of existence within the mother-infant-dyad the infant develops a sense of self awareness in proximity to the mother that is safe where the infant developes trust in the biological mother in the infant's pre-verbal stage. In infants severed from the maternal safety, these two foundational stages are never learned, actualized or developed in the infant.
The psychological stage is avoided, the safety stage is non-existent, so the abandoned infant has no foundation of psychological awareness or awareness of safety. The infant is forced prematurely into self awareness through Isolation. The newborn infant is thrown into the child adoption prison's solitary confinement at birth where the newborn infant is not safe or psychologically prepared to be on his own.
This trauma is his sole awareness of his own existence as there is no pre-trauma existence to compare or reference point for the newborn infant's psychological awareness as life began as a trauma.
- Personal security
- Financial security
- Health and well-being
- Safety net against accidents/illness and their adverse impacts
Love and belonging
Maslow's characteristics of self-actualizers
- Efficient perceptions of reality. Self-actualizers are able to judge situations correctly and honestly. They are very sensitive to the fake and dishonest, and are free to see reality 'as it is'.
- Comfortable acceptance of self, others, nature. Self-actualizers accept their own human nature with all its flaws. The shortcomings of others and the contradictions of the human condition are accepted with humor and tolerance.
- Reliant on own experiences and judgement. Independent, not reliant on culture and environment to form opinions and views.
- Spontaneous and natural. True to oneself, rather than being how others want.
- Task centering. Most of Maslow's subjects had a mission to fulfill in life or some task or problem ‘beyond’ themselves (instead of outside of themselves) to pursue. Humanitarians such as Albert Schweitzer and Mother Teresa are considered to have possessed this quality.
- Autonomy. Self-actualizers are free from reliance on external authorities or other people. They tend to be resourceful and independent.
- Continued freshness of appreciation. The self-actualizer seems to constantly renew appreciation of life's basic goods. A sunset or a flower will be experienced as intensely time after time as it was at first. There is an "innocence of vision", like that of an artist or child.
- Profound interpersonal relationships. The interpersonal relationships of self-actualizers are marked by deep loving bonds.
- Comfort with solitude. Despite their satisfying relationships with others, self-actualizing persons value solitude and are comfortable being alone.
- Non-hostile sense of humor. This refers to the ability to laugh at oneself.
- Peak experiences. All of Maslow's subjects reported the frequent occurrence of peak experiences (temporary moments of self-actualization). These occasions were marked by feelings of ecstasy, harmony, and deep meaning. Self-actualizers reported feeling at one with the universe, stronger and calmer than ever before, filled with light, beautiful and good, and so forth.
- Socially compassionate. Possessing humanity.
- Few friends. Few close intimate friends rather than many surface relationships.