About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Three Types of Adoptive Parents, Adolescent Adoptee Stats


The Three Types of Adoptive Parents

Adolescent Adoptee Statistics


The Adopted Adolescent:
  • One third of adolescents referred for psychotherapy are adopted.
  • Yet, only 2% of the population is adopted.
  • Adolescence is the peak period for psychiatric referrals in the life of the adopted person.
  • Adopted younger children and adults enter psychotherapy at a rate much more similar to the general population. (Brodzinsky, Smith and Brodzinsky, 1998).
School problems and runaway behavior, common reasons for adolescent referral, are more common in the adopted population than in any other part of the youth population. This is true even if adoptees are compared with high-risk populations, such as single-parent families.  (Howard and Smith, 2003). However the overall adjustment of adopted adolescents is good. The emotional health of the adopted adolescents was found to be statistically better than a comparison group of adolescents from single parent families and comparable to the adjustment pattern of adolescents born into intact families (Brodzinsky, Smith, Brodzinsky, 1998). 
There were only 3 exceptions:
  1. Adopted adolescents ran away from home more frequently than the control group adolescents.
  2. Adopted adolescents had a greater incidence of academic and school problems 
  3. Adopted adolescents were less likely to attend college. 

    There are 3 types of adopted families according to many professionals who work in with adoptive families

  1. Blind: These parents communicate that adoption has been simply wonderful for their family. "I can't imagine that any of the problems we are having have anything to do with adoption." "There are no differences", "We are so much alike that most people have no idea that Sarah is adopted. In fact her relatives often comment how much she looks like her dad."  These families often avoid discussion about adoption or birth parents or may even be angry if the adolescent brings up the topic.

  2. Balanced: The adoptive parents acknowledge the differences adoption brings and can openly discuss and honestly the compatibility issues inherent in adoption. "We know that John struggles with his racial identity. We try so hard to support him and strive to be a multiracial family. We know that there are times that he can't talk about this with us." In these families, open discussion of fantasies about birth parents, wishes to search for these parents and even the limitations of the perceived compatibility between child and parents can be openly explored without any sense of danger to the basic bond between family members.

  3. Blaming: These parents have a narrow range of perceived compatibility. They often exaggerate the importance of the adtoptive status of their child, especially when problems arise or the teen doesn't live up to their wishes and expectations. Any shortcomings are explained on the basis of the adoption, rarely their own mistakes or flaws as parents. If the teen does things in sync with their expectations they say," he is my husband's son, made the honor roll again." In contrast, if he doesn't please them, "Your father was an incredible athlete. I don't understand why you are not interested in sports. You keep wanting to be in those ridiculous plays at school." or even " He must have inherited his laziness from his birth father."