The Forced Adoption Culture Assimilation of Adopted Children
Adopted children are forced to assume the role of "the Adopted Child",
that causes the unnatural assumption of the child's identity, forced familiarity
with non genetic tribe or adoptive family and cultural assimilation into a culture that is not cohesive to the child's natural familiar culture.
In infancy and young childhood innocence the adopted child is unaware of the
discontinuity and alien to the facts of why the child himself feels lost and alone
in a room full of loving adoptive relatives.
There is a significant factor of the extended adoptive family's pity, feeling sorry for the child and having great sympathy for the adopted child's pathetic existence as an alien in the adoptive family, which causes friction within the adoptive mother's relationships with her relatives. The adoptive mother may become increasingly annoyed by the special treatment toward the adoptive child or her jealousy may cause a rift in extended family relationships and possibly ostracize the relative providing too much attention to the adopted child.
Essentially destroying a psychological alliance between the adopted child and the relative providing emotional stability and reliance on a non-parenting extended family member.
The adopted child's outcast position in the family is a sad fact in the lives of adopted children, as they are temporary visitors and are made aware of the monumental differences in the adopted child's genetics, heritage, culture and appearance from the genetically unique adoptive family.
The very apparent physical characteristics and differences in the adopted child, that the adoptive mother, parents and family pretend "Not to Exist", Ignore and become the family's social taboo, as a way of denying the truth or not speaking about it will make it go away.
By denying the differences, the adoption does not exist., The denial creates the illusion that the child has origins, people the child belongs to and the child's own primal truths and history that belong to the child only. The adoption hinges on the assumption that the biological mother is the single significant tie to the child, This assumption is selfish, flawed thinking and morally wrong.
The temporary adopted child has his own place in the world outside of the possession adoptive mother, the "Adoption Fog", "Biological Search", "Biological Reunion"(a long process in establishing relationship, building, cultivating and boundary establishments in all relationships), "Adoption Reunion Processing", and the first time "establishment of personal Identity" without outside influence, pressure, indebtedness, guilt or allegiance to any party, As Identity is a self centered search for one's true natural self).
The Adopted Child's Destiny Is the full life that exists outside adoption's prison.
The world outside of the secret closed adoption's limitations & Time constraint: The Belongings of the adopted child are vast and only limited by imagination.
The biological family includes the mother, father, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, maternal and paternal grandparents, great grandparents and ancestors. Formerly separated adopted children are aunts and uncles are sisters, brothers, cousins, we have god parents and are god parents.
The ancestral and cultural heritage is biologically ingrained in our genetics.
The displaced adoptee has a world of understanding to unravel as in adoption reunion we discover who we really are and why we feel the way we do. The injustice of keeping our life, family, the place and "the hundreds of relatives and related people WE COME FROM and WILL FOREVER BELONG TO" Is kept secret from adoptees, for the purpose to be coveted by one adoptive parent forever.
The culture, beliefs, acceptance, unconditional awareness and knowing, folklore, religion, spiritualism, second-sight, the language, gestures, sayings, stories, habits, happiness, belonging, triumphs, victories, all belong to the adoptee's well-being and place of belonging in this world. Who are ancestors are, how they lived, where they lived and how they died. Our biological culture is the one link in this world that gives a person their identity of who they are is where they come from, where we belong is knowing where we come from. A person's history is hundreds of generations past leading through the generations into the future. The temporary setback of being adopted is a time period of 18 years, then the restoration of a persons history may begin healing.
The culture of a family is a subculture within a society that is unique to the dynamics of the ancestral history. Adopted children are denied knowledge of this culture and forced into a foreign culture that is not cohesive to the individual because familial acculturation is unique to the individual's genetic family behavior and adaptive legacy. Adopted children feel isolated from their present circumstances due to the alien nature of the adoptive family's different culture even though the biological culture is not known, the present culture does not fit and does not feel right to the adopted child. The adopted child goes along pretending and accepting the foreign behaviors and practices of the adoptive family and believes that the problem lies with themselves. Which in-fact is true, until the adoptee goes through full adoption reunion, and begins to understand the two opposing forces that pull him in opposite directions. In post reunion processing, the adoptee begins to see why he feels certain ways at adoptive family behaviors and relating and when he is with his own biological family the
the serious issues of difference become clear. The adoptee begins to rewrite his own identity through the comprehensive understanding of his own biological family and genetic culture from which the adoptee always belonged to but temporary was submersed into another culture that was not his own. From these new perspectives the adoptee begins to reflect on his life with the new information and can reconcile his own beginning to form his real identity through time and psychological reflection a new person will emerge, without the temporary handicap of adoption the adoptee creates his new own reality that he can live with un-corrupted by forceful and indebted or guilt reinforced influence.
The selfish adoption tragedy of secrecy that benefits the adoptive parent Only, at the expense of a hundred relatives, a biological culture and a lost identity.