About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

The Unwanted Pregnancy that Matures into the Unwanted Birth Child that Is Adopted To Become the Unwanted Adopted Child


The Unwanted Pregnancy Matures Into the Unwanted Birth Child that Is Adopted To Become the Unwanted Adopted Child

  The adoption mistake where the adoptive family has no choice except to go on living with the unwanted adopted child living in their home, was my childhood experience.
The fact that I had absolutely no value to the family except a yearly tax write-off, was explained to me that the cost of my living in the home far outweighed the minute amount of the tax deduction per child each year and had zero impact on my daily expense to this financially well off adoptive family. The principle of the burden was not financial, but a burden of time, energy and family's psychological tolerance of caregiver and babysitting for  someone else's genetic child that was not their biological child. The adoption began with good intentions as all adoptions do, but the reality of nurturing your own offspring that comes from one's own body
versus dealing with a stranger's offspring that will grow up to be like their own family and not the characteristics of the adopting family's is a hard reality to accept when it is legally too late to undo.
The original devastation of a stillborn female child, this third lost child that was supposed to complete the family portrait, has forced the mother into child adoption to distract her from the devastation and avoid the entire grieving process all together. The reality struck her like a bolt of lightning at that moment when the mother took possession of the adopted child. This was not her child, her child was dead and this child replacement was not acceptable, not going to work and she didn't love this child. In fact, this was a stranger's problem that somehow this grieving mother was strapped with it's responsibility. The adoptive mother grew angry and spiteful at the sight of the adopted child. Worse when the mother herd the baby cry the rage inside the mother would bubble up like a volcano to explode out in a screaming terror and hatred for the injustice that had robbed this young mother of her sweet newborn daughter and the wonderful life they could have had, the child's potential and future were missing from this family's life. And here is this unwanted screaming infant that thinks it is the center of the universe, making demands of this mother's broken hart. The grieving mother is sent far into the depths of depression because of the demanding infant that the mother can't stand to see, hear or bear the thoughts of living without her own child. Take that child away from me, it is not mine, and I don't want it near me. When people are forced to accept people they do not like, the cruelty of human behavior is spawn.
The forced child will pay for the distress she causes, the suffering she brings with her needs will be repaid with anger, intolerance and the mother will train her to know her lowly place in the world. That she has caused such pain to this family., She will repay every tear she has caused by her demands with her own tears and blood. She will grow up being lucky to know such a family and only dream of being a part of such an upstanding family.
She will know her place is not standing with us but serving us in subservience, not to have an arrogant thought in her stupid head, will be beaten into submission and servitude to feel grateful for such an upstanding family as ours.