About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

The Religious Gossip


The Danger, Destructiveness and Power of Gossiping Christian Women

Back in the dark medieval days of religiously sanctioned adoptions, average American parents could and did force their unmarried adult daughters to abandon the illegitimate bastard child to save face in the Christian community. The small town dependence on the local church was not based in religious doctrine, but popularity,
vanity and gossip that cycled through the work weak to begin again at the Sunday church service. These church dependent family's were social police, judge and jury
relying on second and third hand gossip of the Gospel. The disreputable behavior of the gossiping self-righteous church women is conveniently packaged as acceptable under the disguise of "concern" over small town morality. Yet the gossiping church ladies are responsible for the consequences they create by perpetuating lies, hatred against their neighboring women and families. These church lady's intentional gossip that is used to attack other women fuels their fear and jealousy that is all based on the materialistic culture of cruel vanity that is  
alive and thriving in every church community today. The casual gossip has the power to destroy a human being's self worth, community acceptance and the  community power to banish and ostracize one of it's members, based on simple lies of mean gossip about someone that creates a community's suspicion. A simple dislike of a kid can lead an adult's to create through casual gossip serious and life threatening circumstances and consequences for a child. To condemn a stealing child, a lying teenager, loose mother or drunk father  at the slightest possibility of a real social infraction, is taken to serious lengths by the whims of an unhappy, slighted or scorned woman's retaliation. The social threat of the small town gossip is perceived as a monumental disaster to the family's honor, social acceptance and social respect of the community. The family that has managed to not offend any of the church women's hierarchy of popularity and their social control that comes with that position of popularity. The family that coexists and
lives in a state of constant fear of being  the target of such malicious talk. The stress that comes from being dependent on being part of the social organizations within these religious communities has a price of condemnation when the family member becomes the target of the community gossip, weather true or lie, the family member always will lose as being the social deviant that dared to cast away the strictly held religious beliefs and morality values of an entire community. The pressure then comes upon the family for fast resolve of the social infraction, the constant pressure and threat of  the family's social humiliation or being virtually kicked out of the church community based on the action or inaction of the family and how that family will publicly punish or excommunicate the negligent family member and cast them out of the community forever to save face., To salvage the family's honor and respect as a part of the community and to save the vanity appearance of the self righteous group's disapproval? The family that banishes their own offspring, with an unwed pregnancy, essentially erasing their grandchild and daughter from existence to keep the status of upstanding citizen. The price people pay to give the impression of values and principles when their honor is non existent and they chose to live the life of a coward who has turned their back on their only family when they needed them most, all in the name of keeping up appearances.