About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, August 3, 2014

Verbal Abuse In Adopted Child Maltreatment


Adopted Child Abuse

Verbal Abuse of the Adopted Child

The adopted child is especially familiar with the term of "Verbal Abuse" as it is incorporated as a tool and utilized by the dysfunctional type of un-natural, abnormal and abusive adoptive parenting that perpetuates psychological abuse and child maltreatment to maintain physical, emotional and dominating control of the non-biological offspring present in research, case files, and many other accounts related to the abused adopted child. 
Verbal abuse is the first indicator of how a non-biological parent intentionally disregards an adopted child in an attempt to control by withholding love as conditional. 

When verbal abuse does not get the adoptive mother's arrogant point across and fully understood, she is always happy to strike her adopted child's face!__________________________________________

Definition: VERBAL ABUSE

Verbal abuse (also known as reviling
Is described as a negative defining statement told to the victim or about the victim, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target as non-existent. If the abuser does not immediately apologize and retract the defining statement, the relationship may be a verbally abusive one.
In schools a young person may indulge in verbal abuse — bullying (which often has a physical component) to gain status as superior to the person targeted and to bond with others against the target. Generally the bully knows no other way to connect emotionally, i.e., be bonded with others.
In social sciences the non-biological, adopted child does not fit the general population category of child offspring, or genetic child. 
As the relationship between adopted child and adoptive parent is not a natural consenting relationship. Child adoption is a legal relationship that the child has not agreed, and has not consented to. The adopted child has not chosen to emotionally invest in any adoption agreement. The child is however, forced into, and to comply with the terms of  the adoption custodial agreement, of which the child's "Agreement Is Implied" by the court of law. The legal relationship is similar to an non consenting marriage with sexual relations restricted. The parent child adoptive relationship has a conditional regard, In the biological offspring parent-child relationship is unconditional for the biological child. The adoptive relationship must be proven daily and can never be assumed. The social science relationship cycle for couples is similar to the adoptive relationship in a science, or fact base representation of reasoning.  
In couple relationships, the verbal abuser responds to the partner's "separateness," i.e., independent thoughts, views, desires, feelings, expressions (even of happiness) as an irritant or even an attack.    While some people believe the abuser has low self-esteem and so attempts to place their victim in a similar position, i.e., to believe negative things about himself or herself, this is not usually the case in couple relationships. A man may, for example, disparage a woman partner simply because she has qualities that were disparaged in him, i.e., emotional intelligence, warmth, receptivity and so forth.
Anyone can experience verbal abuse. Typically, in couple or family relationships verbal abuse increases in intensity and frequency over time. After exposure to verbal abuse, victims may develop clinical depression and/or post traumatic stress disorder. The person targeted by verbal abuse over time may succumb to any stress related illness. Verbal abuse creates emotional pain and mental anguish in its target.
Despite being the most common form of abuse, verbal abuse is generally not taken as seriously as other types because there is no visible proof, and the abuser may have a "perfect" personality around others. In reality, however, verbal abuse can be more detrimental to a person's health than physical abuse. If a person is verbally abused from childhood on, he or she may develop psychological disorders that plague them into and throughout adulthood.
Verbal abuse includes the following:
  • countering
  • withholding
  • discounting
  • minimalisation   (psychology)
  • blocking and diverting
  • accusing and blaming
  • judging and criticism
  • trivializing
  • undermining
  • threatening
  • name calling
  • chronic forgetting
  • ordering
  • denial of anger or denial of abuse
  • abusive anger
  • triangulation

Abusive adoptive parents utilize all of the above behaviors to keep the adopted child the perpetual dependent child., The adopted child's low self esteem, lack of resources and lack of people who care create the dark psychological prison of slavery's servitude. The adoptive parent perpetrator of intentional psychological abuse and maltreatment (similar to the intentional medical destruction of the brain known as the Lobotomy)create the atmosphere of psychological control that holds the adopted child captive, unable to plan, seek escape or relief from the parent's manipulation abuse, domination and control over the adopted child's life. Especially true when the adopted child is a legal adult and can escape the adoptive parent's servitude, but is emotionally imprisoned and can't leave.