Adopted Child Abuse
Traumatic Bonding and Submission of Adopted Child
Traumatic bonding of Adopted Children
Is a forced legal relationship between adopted child and adoptive parent, occurs as the result of ongoing cycles of abuse in which the intermittent reinforcement of reward and punishment creates powerful emotional bonds that are resistant to change.
Power and control in abusive relationships is the way that abusers exert physical, sexual and other forms of abuse to gain and maintain control within parent child relationships.
|Gain trust||Overinvolvement||Petty rules and jealousy||Manipulation, power and control||Traumatic bonding|
|The potential abuser is attentive, loving, charming||The abuser becomes overly involved in the daily life and use of time||Rules begin to be inserted to begin control of the relationship. Jealousy is considered by the abuser to be "an act of love"||The victim is blamed for the abuser's behavior and becomes coerced and manipulated||Ongoing cycles of abuse can lead to traumatic bonding|
Coercion and threat
Minimizing, denying and blaming
Using children and pets
- Quick involvement in relationships
- Controlling behavior, which may begin by hyperattention to interaction with others, time use, and being late.
- Unrealistic expectations, expectingperfection.
- Jealousy, which they consider a sign of love
- Blame others for problems
- Blame others for feelings
- Cruelty to animals or children
- "Playful" use of force during sex
- Verbal abuse
- Rigid gender roles
- Sudden mood shifts, like "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde"
- Past battering
- Threats of violence
- Destroying objects
- Any use of force during an argument