"The Forever Adopted Child":
Is It A Syndrome, Twisted Regard or State of Mind In The Adoptive Parents
The adopted child is procured to fulfill the adoptive parent, more specifically the adoptive mother's most dire and desperate needs. The adoptive mother's belief that the presence of her very adopted child will fill the void and tragedy that plagues her. The adopted child enters the unpredictable and mentally unstable adoptive home. The destructive adoptive mother's already dysfunctional home environment, that the child is expected to remedy by the occupation of place and time. The preconceived notion that the child will provide perfection, compounded by a controlling middle aged woman.
The mother's truthful self has an awareness of the psychological needs of repair. However her alter ego that is controlling sees the presence of another person-child as a cause to be defensive, that the other person may become the mother's competition for the husband's attention. While the child is small and cute the mother can control the child, while the child solves the mothers, the marriage and the present boring, dull and unsatisfactory life she is living. The adopted child is not adopted to become an independent from the adopter, or to grow up and move away.
The Biological Mother's offspring is an unconditional progression and continuance of ancestral genetics.
This serious difference in the biological mother is that she has birthed her offspring from her body, replicated herself in her offspring and will nurture the offspring into successful adulthood in the future survival of her genetic line. As her ancestors replicated generations arriving at the present mother and child offspring.
In the adoptive mother there is no genetic survival, no regard of future genetic ancestral survival and
no pregnancy and birth that prepare the mother with biological chemicals to provide care and nurturing.
The adoptive mother is far removed from biological processes involved in pregnancy, birth and nurturing. The psychological missing key is the lack of biological connection, as the adopter order's the child from a catalog or store, makes the payment and is now the owner. There was no seed or beginning, no emergence into the air breathing world, no biological connection. The adoptive mother's psychological parallel is a child opening a birthday or Christmas present revealing a new doll. The adopted child is received by the adoptive mother in the same psychological manner as the doll gift. There is no progression, as the doll gift is always a doll- the adopted child is forever a child to the adoptive parent's psychological regard. The doll and the adopted child are not born, they are gifts, possessions that are owned, and stay the same in the twisted immature mind of the adoptive mother.
life and the problems will be solved. The hope and satisfied.