The Constitutional Right to the "Pursuit of Happiness"
Denied to Adopted Children and Adult Adoptee's
The abandoned adopted child is subjected to an unfortunate life that is increasingly psychologically traumatizing through childhood. The series of unfortunate events prior to the prolonged antagonizing discontinuity and subjective experience of being marooned in a family of strangers with growing contempt over time, mounting conditional disregard for the ostracized child.
The compounding psychological damages to the abandoned adopted child's psyche begin to consume the child's barely existent ego and eventually devour the child's ego. What emerges is a falsely perceived persona that in actuality is a defense mechanism for psychological survival. The survival coping mechanisms enable the adopted child to be perceived as agreeable, compliant and not a threat to the dominating forces that condemn the illegitimate bastard child's right of autonomy to a lower social class that is worthy of servitude. In this social perception and utilization of social class system begins with an individual's birthright, status and place in society, that the adopted child lacks and is not part of the social system of the society. The illegitimate bastard child is negatively regarded by society.
A small percentage of society that uses adoption to procure a child will raise the child in denial of the child's low class and illegitimacy and assume the child is worthy of the standards of the family's social class, love and nurturing the adopted child void of adopted child's maltreatment and abuse. The denial group bases the affiliation with the adopted child on
the ultimate potential and best interest of the child.
Unlike the denial group, the strict social allegiance group of adopting parents adopted the child for the specific purpose and reason for the child to fulfill the needs of the parents. The temporary needs, wants, whims and desires. The psychologically dysfunctional relationship with the child, is that the own him and he will be grateful. The adoption purpose is a temporary cover-up for the wound, injury, void and lacking in the adoptive parent. The abusive adoptive parent believes the "child born in sin" has a sinful nature and must be broken to submit to the parent. The adoptive parent see's the adoptive child as repulsive, contemptuous and resentful of the adoptive parents who saved the child from his own life. The adoptive parent's view of the adopted child in condemnation that the "untouchable class" illegitimate child has bad genetics and should not reproduce. The abandoned at birth child Is socially perceived as damaged, socially repulsive nature, behavior and future of welfare and mental service dependency. The abandoned child is unworthy of the civilized educated class system within society.
The society that is repulsed by abandoned, homeless children, Is the same society that offers, utilizes, and profits from this socially charitable solution to the problem of abandoned, unwanted children. The social perception of abandoned children is a burden to, and on, the contributing public that promotes the solution of adoption to deal with the problem of unwanted children in favorable positive image. The Christian church uses and utilizes adoption to promote religious doctrine and creates and perpetuates the concept illegitimacy of children from unmarried parents, propagated by fear, guilt and damnation.
The public and religious sentiment condemns the pregnant unmarried woman as a whore. the complete and total disregard of the illegitimate adopted child, can be nothing more than gratefully silent., The public and religious sentiment toward adoption give commendable morally awards and hold a higher charitable standard to the adopting parents, that have taken into their home the evil child born of sin to convert into a compliant submissive Christian follower. The general public consensus views child adoption in strictly positive regard and refuses to acknowledge any negative aspects, only accepting adoption as saving children from their own lives.
Birth mothers and their child are the menacing force, essentially villains that threaten and intimidate the wholesome institution of adoption charity. Adoption charity marketing, selling buying, perpetuation and promotion of the adoption principle as the solution to a sinister problem of premarital sex that produces a secondary problem unwanted sinful children. The negative public sentiment toward adopted child, and later the adult adoptee is expected to remain silent, submissive and grateful without exception. The cultural disregard of adopted child and especially the adult adoptee are not given the constitutional rights of the population, due to the discrimination of being abandoned adopted in childhood the adult adoptee can not live with the same degree for self regard as the majority of the population that takes identity for granted. The psychological compromised childhood and negative social regard of adoptees keeps the adoptee from self regard, esteem and actualization,
negative, conditional existence and compromised self regard in childhood by the abandonment from genetic mother, sale, exchange and placement to being owned through adoption for a specific and particular purpose to the adopting parents. Without the recognition of the truth in social regard adopted children will forever live as being owned, enslaved and in servitude of debt that can never be repaid to the adoptive parents that own our lives.
In Goldstein's theory
Maslow's hierarchy of needs
Maslow's characteristics of self-actualizers
- Efficient perceptions of reality. Self-actualizers are able to judge situations correctly and honestly. They are very sensitive to the fake and dishonest, and are free to see reality 'as it is'.
- Comfortable acceptance of self, others, nature. Self-actualizers accept their own human nature with all its flaws. The shortcomings of others and the contradictions of the human condition are accepted with humor and tolerance.
- Reliant on own experiences and judgement. Independent, not reliant on culture and environment to form opinions and views.
- Spontaneous and natural. True to oneself, rather than being how others want.
- Task centering. Most of Maslow's subjects had a mission to fulfill in life or some task or problem ‘beyond’ themselves (instead of outside of themselves) to pursue. Humanitarians such as Albert Schweitzer and Mother Teresa are considered to have possessed this quality.
- Autonomy. Self-actualizers are free from reliance on external authorities or other people. They tend to be resourceful and independent.
- Continued freshness of appreciation. The self-actualizer seems to constantly renew appreciation of life's basic goods. A sunset or a flower will be experienced as intensely time after time as it was at first. There is an "innocence of vision", like that of an artist or child.
- Profound interpersonal relationships. The interpersonal relationships of self-actualizers are marked by deep loving bonds.
- Comfort with solitude. Despite their satisfying relationships with others, self-actualizing persons value solitude and are comfortable being alone.
- Non-hostile sense of humor. This refers to the ability to laugh at oneself.
- Peak experiences. All of Maslow's subjects reported the frequent occurrence of peak experiences (temporary moments of self-actualization). These occasions were marked by feelings of ecstasy, harmony, and deep meaning. Self-actualizers reported feeling at one with the universe, stronger and calmer than ever before, filled with light, beautiful and good, and so forth.
- Socially compassionate. Possessing humanity.
- Few friends. Few close intimate friends rather than many surface relationships.
- Consciousness - of oneself & the environment
- Consciousness - of people around oneself
- Exploration - of something new that one may be capable of
- Initial failure - as one's initial attempts at exploration leads to stumbles & falls
- Trying - again & again till such time that one does not stumble & fall
- Experiencing joy - of having tried & achieved something new
- Commendation & applause - of those around; especially of the ones that the individual values
- Boredom - as one performs the 'not so new anymore' task as a matter of habit
- Then back to step 3 for something new to explore
- The cycle continuing throughout one's life as the individual grows & expands into newer & unexplored dimensions of personal fulfilment