About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Saturday, August 9, 2014

The Artificial, Not Natural and Adoptive Relationship


The Artificial Adoptive Parent Relationship
The Artificial, Not Natural and Adoptive Forced Relation

Due to the forced legal relationship of child adoption,
the adoptive parent is not the adopted child's biological familiar family, and must create a new human relationship with the non-offspring child.

The adoptive relationship is unlike the unconditional biologically bonded parent-child offspring regard.
The natural relationship between parent and child is an unaffected, ordinary, innate, and inborn bond.
An unadorned, unadulterated, type of intuition between a parent and their offspring that needs no special treatment due to the biological and genetic duplication and representation of likeness, similarity in physical appearance and characteristics. The biological similar and duplication of mannerisms, vocabulary and use of language, habits, traits persona that certain details are shared automatically through generational members of family groups, tribes, clans in observed between the offspring, children, parents and elder relatives. The regard for one another in family hierarchy is unconditional fondness, affection, involvement and emotional attachment throughout family and extended relatives.

The familiar regard of family attachment does not apply in the context of a stranger or outsider and adopted child. What does apply are the normal dynamics of building a new relationship with someone or child that is not previously known.
The relationship building is not assumed, is not automatically and is based on the gradual relationship building blocks of seeking a new human interpersonal relationship. 

The person seeking a new interpersonal relationship in the form of child adoption has to conform to the facts of reality that human relationships cycle and are not absolute. The fact that trust and respect are not conditional, must be earned and can not be expected or demanded. The adoptive parent and the adopted child must accept the fact that they are and must remain on the same level, to ever hope to have a long-term enduring relationship. 

The adoptive parent's disturbing assumption of "demanded respect" based on the imposition of "saving", "rescuing" and "adopting" the outsider child, Being older, being the parent or having more experience in life experience. On the basis of submission and demand for respect from the adopted child, this relationship is not in the adopted child's best interest and will eventually come to an abrupt and dramatic ending or severing of ties. It  
is this type of arrogance, greed and narcissistic personality trait and or disorder that will always cause the bitter ending in the adoptive parent's relationship failure with the adopted child.
As the person who has to demand a specific response from the child, who is supposed to be treated as the focus of the parent child relationshipwith an adoptive parent mutual respect between parent and child is missing or non existent thus the reason for the demand is control over the child. 
To demand to be respected, is a respect a parent will never experience, where most adoptive parent's mistakes are based on their own perception of superiority of which they are sadly mistaken.    
Normal child-parent relation is a constant on give and take, with the same hope and disappointments
dynamics adults use to find similarity between one-another. The conditional relationship with an adopted child is best handled by people that do not have mental or personality difficulties or you observe a grown child controlling a young child and they hate each-other.