About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, August 3, 2014

Religious Indoctrination, Spiritual Abuse In Adopted Child Abuse

ADOPTEE RAGE!

Adopted Child Abuse

Religious Indoctrination of Adopted Children

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Religious indoctrination and Abuse of Adopted Child

Since before the 1950's, the perfect nuclear family has been judged by the adopting parent's attendance in local church. Acceptance was limited to Christian, Baptist, and Methodist churches in the town. Small town America was cut off from college learning and mainstream intellectual growth, the small towns like centuries before were bound to folklore, Old-wives tales and the single person minister's interpretation of the bible, and how he presented each sermon would reflect on the congregation in the way the minister, pastor or Layman influenced the story. Catholic and Mormon families were considered ignorant by their interpretation of "be fruitful and multiply" and ostracized from the central arrogant Christian community of a town. Though research and experience has shown that Mormon and Catholic families did not engage in "grocery-store Judging" 
or indoctrinating the public. The Christian mother was the arrogant judging and condemner of others.
It was the Christian hierarchy of arrogance that condemned a child that was born out of wedlock as an Illegitimate and Bastard. Christians were the driving forces to stake out hospitals stealing the newborn children away from sinning young women, 
To be placed with more deserving christian couples.
The insolence, arrogance and self importance of Christians over the many other religions that made the Christian adoptive homes the most dangerous and emotionally strangling for the indoctrinated adopted child. The Christian parents ignorance of the Bible, allegiance of ignorance to the unexplored principles of God's Chosen People that they forced their own interpreted christian principles down the throats of young impressionable adopted children.
It was the Duty of the christian mother to indoctrinate the adopted child and save the bastard, illegitimate adopted child from his own ignorant and savage nature. Whatever the adopted child's birth heritage, it was the duty to Christianise the adopted child to save him from his nature, culture and heredity, as the adopted child's evil nature is ignored by the eyes of God. The adoptive mother sees herself as an extension of god, and is propelled by god to brake the child's spirit and convert him from savage to gentile. The fear base of religion and old-wives tales are believed and utilized against the child's unclean sole. The christian adoptive mother perceives the adopted child as "dirty", "Filthy and unworthy" of the Holy Spirit's Grace. The adoptive christian mother uses tactics of cruelty, as she psychologically manipulates the child and plants the seeds of guilt and fear into an innocent trusting child. The christian adoptive mother vigorously works the seeds of guilt and fear to harvest the fruits of a submissive broken and obedient adopted child. The adoptive mother's ambiguity against the child is that she never attempted to bond, nurture or give the devil's child any physical love or acceptance, as she despises the outsider child who grows more different from the family with each day. The adoptive mother's fear, hostility and anger grows steady and stronger toward the adopted child's maturing body and cognitive intellect begins to surpass the adoptive mother's lacking education. The christian adoptive mother begins to feel jealousy toward the maturing adopted child as a competition for the attention of the husband. The adoptive mother's realization that the adopted child is becoming more beautiful and exotic than the mothers aging face and body.The mother works harder to brake the child's growing self esteem (that is received at school from peers)  to make the child believe that she is unwanted, ugly  awkward and undesirable to men and boys. Along with the religious fear tactics of hell, damnation, guilt and the ever growing threat by adoptive mother of being dis-owned, kicked-out, ostracized, thrown out into the street, no-longer loved, allowed or wanted by the adoptive family. The Jealous adoptive mother's constant threats of throwing the adopted -teen out into the street, are meant to make the child to "beg the mother's forgiveness for being young, beautiful and having one's life ahead of her?
This is the sick and disturbing religious adoptive mother's twisted thinking that kills and destroys the forever adopted child's adult lives.  

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en.Wikipedia.org/religious abuse/

Religious Abuse Against children

Religiously based psychological abuse of children is a growing area of interest in the psychological and sociological community. It can take the form of using teachings to subjugate children through fear, or imposing heavy indoctrination such that the child is taught only the beliefs and/or points of view of their particular sect (or even just that of their caregivers) and all other perspectives are stifled or kept from them. The beliefs are taught as absolute truth, with no way of ever questioning them. Psychologist Jill Mytton describes this as crushing the child's chance to form a personal morality and belief system, making them utterly reliant on their religious system and/or parents. They never learn to critically reflect on information they receive. Similarly, the use of fear and a judgmental environment (such as the concept of Hell) to control the child can be traumatic.

Spiritual abuse

Spiritual abuse includes:
  • Psychological Abuse and Emotional Abuse with the objective of unnatural domination and control of the victim for self-aggrandizing purposes by the perpetrator;
  • Physical Abuse that includes physical injury, deprivation of sustenance;
  • Sexual Abuse.
  • Any act by deeds or words that demean, humiliate or shame the natural worth and dignity of a person as a human being;
  • Submission to spiritual authority without any right to disagree; Intimidation.
  • Unreasonable control of a person's basic right (personal autonomy) to make their own decisions (freewill, volition) on spiritual or natural matters;
  • False Accusation and repeated criticism by negatively labeling a person as disobedient, rebellious, lacking faith, demonized, apostate, enemy of the church or a deity (a god);
  • Actions aimed at prevention from or interference with a person's practice or system faith or spirituality;
  • Isolationism, separation, disenfranchisement or estrangement from family and friends outside the group due to cult-religious or spiritual affiliation and indigenous beliefs;
  • Exclusivity and Elitism: dismissal of outsiders' criticism on the purported basis that the assessment, opinions, and criticism of the critic is invalid because he/she does not understand or rejects the unorthodox nuances of the belief system of the group or group guru; it is not uncommon for outside critics to be accused of being or being influenced by a demon;
  • Esotericism: withholding information and giving of information only to a selected few; hidden agendas and requirements revealed to members only as they successfully advance through various stages of "spiritual enlightenment," which in reality is unorthodox, unproven, indigenous doctrines, beliefs, and/or practices;
  • Conformity to an unorthodox, unproven, or unnatural, and often spiritually or even naturally dangerous unconventional cult-religious view or worldview and practice;
  • Practice of spiritualism, misticism, and/or unproven or unorthodox doctrines and theology;
  • Hostility and disenfranchisement that includes shunning, relational aggression, parental alienation or persecution:
  • Apotheosis or de facto deification of the leadership: exaltation of the primary leader(s) to a God-like status in and over the group;
  • Financial exploitation and enslavement of adherents with inordinate and burdensome required financial support ("donations") to the financial needs of the group, which often includes a self-aggrandizing personal financial lifestyle of the leadership that far exceeds the median lifestyle of the group adherents.

Background

The term "spiritual abuse" was purportedly coined in the late twentieth century to refer to alleged misuse and abuse of authority by church leaders. Albeit, some scholars and historians would dispute that claim, citing prior literary appearances of the term in historical religion and psychology literature. Lambert defines spiritual abuse as "a type of psychological predomination that could be rightly termed — religious enslavement. He further identifies "religious enslavement" as being a product of what is termed in the Bible "Witchcraft," or "sorcery."

Characteristics

Researchers conceptualize a set of discernible characteristics of spiritual abuse.
 Ronald Enroth in Churches that Abuse: identifies five categories:
  1. Authority and Power - abusive groups misuse and distort the concept of spiritual authority. Abuse arises when leaders of a group arrogate to themselves power and authority that lacks the dynamics of open accountability and the capacity to question or challenge decisions made by leaders. The shift entails moving from general respect for an office bearer to one where members loyally submit without any right to dissent.
  2. Manipulation and Control - abusive groups are characterized by social dynamics where feat, guilt and threats are routinely used to produce unquestioning obedience, group conformity, and stringent tests of loyalty to the leaders are demonstrated before the group. Biblical concepts of the leader-disciple relationship tend to develop into a hierarchy where the leader's decisions control and usurp the disciple's right or capacity to make choices on spiritual matters or even in daily routines of what form of employment, form of diet and clothing are permitted, as seen in abusive adoptive parenting.
  3. Elitism and Persecution - abusive groups depict themselves as unique and have a strong organizational tendency to be separate from other bodies and institutions. The social dynamism of the group involves being independent or separate, with diminishing possibilities for internal correction and reflection. Outside criticism and evaluation is dismissed as the disruptive efforts of evil people seeking to hinder or thwart.
  4. Life-style and Experience - abusive groups foster rigidity in behavior and in belief that requires unswerving conformity to the group's ideals and social mores.
  5. Dissent and Discipline - abusive groups tend to suppress any kind of internal challenges and dissent concerning decisions made by leaders. Acts of discipline may involve emotional and physical humiliation, physical violence or deprivation, acute and intense acts of punishment for dissent and disobedience.
Agnes and John Lawless argue in The Drift into Deception that there are eight characteristics of spiritual abuse, and some of these clearly overlap with Enroth's criteria. They list the eight marks of spiritual abuse as comprising:
  1. Charisma and pride
  2. Anger and Intimidation
  3. Greed and fraud
  4. Immortality
  5. Enslaving authoritarian structure,
  6. Exclusivity,
  7. Demanding loyalty and honor,
  8. New revelation.
The author of Charismatic Captivation examples are:
  1. Apotheosis or de facto deification of the leadership — exalting them to God-like status in and over the group, often to the extent that the leaders become a "mediator" between the people and God;
  2. Absolute authority of the leadership;
  3. Pervasive abuse and misuse of authority in personal dealings with members to coerce submission;
  4. Paranoia, inordinate egotism or narcissism, and insecurity by the leaders;
  5. Abuse, misuse, and inordinate incidence of "church discipline," particularly matters not expressly mentioned in the Bible as church discipline issues;
  6. Inordinate attention to maintaining the public "image" of the ministry and bambasting of all "critics";
  7. Constant indoctrination with a "group" or "family" mentality that impels members to exalt the corporate "life" and goals of the church-group over their personal goals, callings, objectives, and relationships;
  8. Members are psychologically traumatized, terrorized, and indoctrinated with numerous improper fears and phobias aimed at keeping them reeling in diffidence and an over-dependence or co-dependence on their leaders and the corporate group;
  9. Members are required to obtain the approval or "witness" of their leader(s) for decisions regarding personal matters;
  10. Frequent preaching from the pulpit regarding not getting out from under the "spiritual covering" of the leadership by leaving the church/group or disobeying the leaderships' dictates and demands of you;
  11. Members departing without the prior permission and blessing of the leadership leave the group under a cloud of manufactured suspicion, shame, and slander;
  12. Departing and ostracized members often suffer from various psychological problems and display the classic symptoms associated with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
Regarding these signs and symptoms of spiritual abuse, Lambert, poignantly synopsizes the problem:
"The proper role of human under-shepherds is to lead people to the Great Shepherd, Jesus Christ, and teach them how to be His disciples, in submission to Him and His authority. Hyper-authoritarian leaders, instead, lead people to themselves, and indoctrinate them to betheir followers, in total submission to them and their authority. In essence, these dominating shepherds teach they are the church-members' de facto lord, master, and savior, rather than Christ. They indoctrinate members to believe the spiritual leaders of the church themselves are the members' "spiritual covering" (a totally false and patently unbiblical concept), and any member who ever leaves the church will be "out from under" their "covering," be without any covering or what they call, "uncovered," and will experience terrible curses and other horrible consequences as a result. From the pulpit often come "horror stories" about what happened to such-and-so person or family, who were so spiritually bereft or rebellious as to leave the group without the blessings and approval of their "spiritual authority."
In these groups, the "authority" of the "shepherds" is absolute, sacrosanct, and inviolable, that is, without reprisal. Any semblance of anything other than total and unquestioning obedience to the desires and counsel of the church's leadership chain is considered rebellion and insubordination, and simply is not tolerated. Members live under the constant threat of being branded with the Scarlet Letter "R" for "Rebel," openly denounced and shamed from the (bully-)pulpit, and consequently shunned by the "covenant-community" (church) for failure to comply with the unwritten, unspoken rules and expectations established by the leadership. An oppressive performance-based approval and promotion system keeps members in constant internal turmoil and fear as they jump through all the hoops the spiritual taskmasters put before them, in an attempt to seek their leaders' approval and favor."

Research and examples

Flavil Yeakley's team of researchers conducted field-tests with members of the Boston Church of Christ using the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. In The Discipling Dilemma Yeakley reports that the members tested "showed a high level of change in psychological type scores", with a "clear pattern of convergence in a single type". The same tests were conducted on five mainline denominations and with six groups that are popularly labeled as cults or manipulative sects. Yeakley's test results showed that the pattern in the Boston Church "was not found among other churches of Christ or among members of five mainline denominations, but that it was found in studies of six manipulative sects. The research did not show that the Boston Church was "attracting people with a psychological need for high levels of control", but Yeakley concluded that "they are producing conformity in psychological type" which he deemed to be "unnatural, unhealthy, and dangerous.
The above lists of characteristics of religious indoctrination
are easily applied and interchangeable to include Adopted Child Abuse by Christian Adoptive Parents. The motivation is to control the adopted child, the tools of guilt and fear
are used to perpetuate and keep control over the child throughout his lifetime. As religious indoctrination of adoptive parents takes great effort and vigilance to retain control over the adopted child long term.