Self Image of the Adopted Child Gift or Curse
The gift from a loving, nurturing and self-confident parent or caregiver is the foundation and support for a child's positive self regard. The cruel, selfish and jealous narcissistic adoptive mother gives her adopted child no gifts at all, but the burden of self loathing that she plants and cultivates in the child the idea that the adopted child is primarily flawed, unlovable, unlikable, unacceptable, broken and cast out. That she is god to the unwanted child, through the adoptive mother the child may gain partial acceptance in the family or society through the mother. The warning if the child thinks too good of himself and believes he can venture into the world without the mother's guidance the adopted child will loose the adoptive mother's favor, conditional acceptance and regard for the child. In the child's arrogance he has forgotten that the world comes through the mother. Without the adopted mother the child has nothing, is no-one and will disappear into obscurity. The child will loose his place in society as he has forgotten his illegitimacy, his bastardly existence and lowest cast of the undesirable place from which he came, he will return where he belongs without the adoptive mother, he is worthless, he simply does not exist.
- Self-image resulting from how the individual sees himself or herself.
- Self-image resulting from how others see the individual.
- Self-image resulting from how the individual perceives others see him or her.
Self-image of victimisation
Children’s self-image disparity
Evolved awareness of self-image in mirror
- From about 6 through 12 months of age, the first prolonged and repeated reaction of an infant to his mirror image is that of a sociable “playmate”.
- In the second year of life, wariness and withdrawal appeared; self-admiring and embarrassed behavior accompanied those avoidance behaviors starting at 14 months, and was shown by 75% of the subjects after 20 months of age.
- During the last part of the second year of life, from 20 to 24 months of age, 65% of the subjects demonstrated recognition of their mirror images.