Adoption Identity Crisis
Adoption Identity Failure
The adopted child's Real Identity is erased and legally hidden for the duration of the adoptee's life, from the adoptee. Forcing him to accept the pseudo identity of the adoptive parents. This temporary forced identity is assumed for the duration of childhood in the adoptive compliance living situation.
Emerging adult adoptees have a cognitive difficulty and struggle in accepting the false identity into adulthood. Some adult adoptees accept the identity fraud because it is easier than fighting the unjust adoption assimilation of unwanted children into adoptive homes with the secrecy of closed adoption, that only provides comfort to the adopting family that fears the child's truth and true nature. It is a way to erase the child's true identity and hide it away for 99 years for the comfort of everyone buy the adopted child. The adoptive family and the adoption institution put the identity fraud into place so the adoptive child could not feel the comfort of knowing his own identity and having a way out of an abusive adoptive family. In this sinister way the child has no options and is stuck where he has been placed indefinitely. The adopting principles feel a runaway adopted child should be homeless, living on the street and possibly dead, if he is not under the ownership of responsibility in the adoptive placement. Adoption officials would rather the adopted child have no choice than any choice to find or reunite his lost family. The legal sanctions of the adoption industry legally forbid the abandoned child and the biological family from reunion even when based in fraud. The adoption industry never asked, conferred or thought of the adopted child when it made lifelong decisions that temporary impacted the person outside of the adoption triad. The adoption industry agrees on the 25% of failed adoptions before finalization, 25%
of adoptions fail after finalization and the numbers that are not recorded about adoptions that fail without legal involvement 25%., That means 25% of all adoptions actually work out with happy involvement of all parties including the adopted child. For the 75% of adopted child are used, abused, and living on the street at some point in the adoption ownership of 18 years. These 75% of unwanted, used by adoptive parents, thrown away, discarded and kicked out of the adoptive home to fend for themselves exist with identities that are fraud, didn't work out... too bad, too much work, the adoptive parent got fed up with.
These 75% of adoptees make up the quagmire of adoption failure and are left without identity., The adoptive parents continue to use the social security numbers for yearly tax right offs and financial benefits that the adopted children living on the street do not benefit from their own false identity tax identification.
The premise of this essay is to discuss identity crisis in the adopted child who has come out of compliance, compensation and defense mechanism coping within the adoptive home. The adoptee has survived a troubled adoptive childhood and emerges without a true identity to believe in themselves or find the truth of who they are. Adopted children missed out on normal identity formation that many people take for granted that had the opportunity to form a normal identity of their own. Adopted children are too busy trying to fit, trying to make believe and trying to please the adoptive situation that they can never come to any definite consensus about their true self to find acceptance in who they are. The constant yelling, screaming hitting and slaps in the face remind them that they are temporary residents and not permanent in the adoptive home. The adopted child is not part of the adoptive family but an experiment of the adoptive mother's charity work that fails miserably in secret behind the eyes of the public.The adopted child that is eventually cast out into the street is to leave quietly in secret, without anyone knowing the truth of why. The disgraced adopted child leaves without incident and is simply gone, where the truth of why is twisted to always vilify the ungrateful adopted child as a calloused unemotional psychopath, responsible for all trouble caused the honorable, charitable and giving adoptive family.
"The Adoption Fog of Silence" will last as long as the adopted child holds on to preconceived notions that the adopted child is responsible for hurting the adoptive family. Denial of self makes the pain of adoption lies live on too long in the mind of the adult adoptee. Never speaking out or interrupting the "Adoption Silence" of injustice, cruelty, neglected nurturing and adoptive family indifference toward the
adopted child outsider.
When the "Adoption Silence" is finally broken, the "Adoption Fog" will begin to lift, revealing a childhood of pain, suffering, frustration and personal insult at the outsider adopted child who is blamed, the scapegoat of the adoptive family's problems.
As the truth is told the adopted child realizes they have been a victim of the adoption industries lies and deceptions of the blank slate infant, the new life given through adoption has a terrible price, the price of a childhood, self and soul of the purchased child.
The truth brings with it great misery and discomfort for the adopted child that all belongs to the adopted child's experience and can not be erased by anyone.
The joke of it all is the false identity that the adoptive family gave the adopted child...to continue to except the false adopted identity of the family's scapegoat, a stupid and unworthy idiot is saying that the adopted child continues to be worthless outside of the cruel adoptive family. The identity Crisis emerges in the adult adoptee. The crisis is fallowed by "Identity Rejection" of the adopted identity. I would rather have no name than the hated adopted child's name.