About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Saturday, August 23, 2014

Adopted Child Identity Crisis Identity Forclosure


Adoption Identity Crisis 

Adoption Identity Failure


The adopted child's Real Identity is erased and legally hidden for the duration of the adoptee's life, from the adoptee. Forcing him to accept the pseudo identity of the adoptive parents. This temporary forced identity is assumed for the duration of childhood in the adoptive compliance living situation.
Emerging adult adoptees have a cognitive difficulty and struggle in accepting the false identity into adulthood. Some adult adoptees accept the identity fraud because it is easier than fighting the unjust adoption assimilation of unwanted children into adoptive homes with the secrecy of closed adoption, that only provides comfort to the adopting family that fears the child's truth and true nature. It is a way to erase the child's true identity and hide it away for 99 years for the comfort of everyone buy the adopted child. The adoptive family and the adoption institution put the identity fraud into place so the adoptive child could not feel the comfort of knowing his own identity and having a way out of an abusive adoptive family. In this sinister way the child has no options and is stuck where he has been placed indefinitely. The adopting principles feel a runaway adopted child should be homeless, living on the street and possibly dead, if he is not under the ownership of responsibility in the adoptive placement. Adoption officials would rather the adopted child have no choice than any choice to find or reunite his lost family. The legal sanctions of the adoption industry legally forbid the abandoned child and the biological family from reunion even when based in fraud. The adoption industry never asked, conferred or thought of the adopted child when it made lifelong decisions that temporary impacted the person outside of the adoption triad. The adoption industry agrees on the 25% of failed adoptions before finalization, 25%
of adoptions fail after finalization and the numbers that are not recorded about adoptions that fail without legal involvement 25%., That means 25% of all adoptions actually work out with happy involvement  of all parties including the adopted child. For the 75% of adopted child are used, abused, and living on the street at some point in the adoption ownership of 18 years. These 75% of unwanted, used by adoptive parents, thrown away, discarded and kicked out of the adoptive home to fend for themselves exist with identities that are fraud, didn't work out... too bad, too much work, the adoptive parent got fed up with.
These 75% of adoptees make up the quagmire of adoption failure and are left without identity., The adoptive parents continue to use the social security numbers for yearly tax right offs and financial benefits that the adopted children living on the street do not benefit from their own false identity tax identification.

The premise of this essay is to discuss identity crisis in the adopted child who has come out of compliance, compensation and defense mechanism coping within the adoptive home. The adoptee has survived a troubled adoptive childhood and emerges without a true identity to believe in themselves or find the truth of who they are.  Adopted children missed out on normal identity formation that many people take for granted that had the opportunity to form a normal identity of their own. Adopted children are too busy trying to fit, trying to make believe and trying to please the adoptive situation that they can never come to any definite consensus about their true self to find acceptance in who they are. The constant yelling, screaming hitting and slaps in the face remind them that they are temporary residents and not permanent in the adoptive home. The adopted child is not part of the adoptive family but an experiment of the adoptive mother's charity work that fails miserably in secret behind the eyes of the public.The adopted child that is eventually cast out into the street is to leave quietly in secret, without anyone knowing the truth of why. The disgraced adopted child leaves without incident and is simply gone, where the truth of why is twisted to always vilify the ungrateful adopted child as a calloused unemotional psychopath, responsible for all trouble caused the honorable, charitable and giving adoptive family. 

"The Adoption Fog of Silence" will last as long as the adopted child holds on to preconceived notions that the adopted child is responsible for hurting the adoptive family. Denial of self makes the pain of adoption lies live on too long in the mind of the adult adoptee. Never speaking out or interrupting the "Adoption Silence" of injustice, cruelty, neglected nurturing and adoptive family indifference toward the
adopted child outsider.
When the "Adoption Silence" is finally broken, the "Adoption Fog" will begin to lift, revealing a childhood of pain, suffering, frustration and personal insult at the outsider adopted child who is blamed, the scapegoat of the adoptive family's problems.
As the truth is told the adopted child realizes they have been a victim of the adoption industries lies and deceptions of the blank slate infant, the new life given through adoption has a terrible price, the price of a childhood, self and soul of the purchased child.
The truth brings with it great misery and discomfort for the adopted child that all belongs to the adopted child's experience and can not be erased by anyone.
The joke of it all is the false identity that the adoptive family  gave the adopted child...to continue to except the false adopted identity of the family's scapegoat, a stupid and unworthy idiot is saying that the adopted child continues to be worthless outside of the cruel adoptive family. The identity Crisis emerges in the adult adoptee. The crisis is fallowed by "Identity Rejection" of the adopted identity. I would rather have no name than the hated adopted child's name.


Identity crisis, according to psychologist Eric Erickson, is the failure to achieve ego identity during adolescence. Erikson coined the term.

The stage of psychosocial development in which identity crisis may occur is called the Identity Cohesion versus Role Confusion stage. During this stage (adolescence), adolescents are faced with physical growth, sexual maturation, and integrating ideas of themselves and about what others think of them. Adolescents therefore form their self-image and endure the task of resolving the crisis of their basic ego identity. Successful resolution of the crisis depends on one’s progress through previous developmental stages centering on issues such as trust, autonomy, and initiative.


Those who emerge from the adolescent stage of personality development with a strong sense of identity are well equipped to face adulthood with confidence and certainty. This sort of unresolved crisis leaves individuals struggling to “find themselves.” They may go on to seek a negative identity, which may involve crime or drugs or the inability to make defining choices about the future. “The basic strength that should develop during adolescence is fidelity, which emerges from a cohesive ego identity” not experienced in the adopted child.
Erikson's own interest in identity began in childhood. born Ashkenazic Jewish, Erikson felt that he was an outsider. His later studies of cultural life among the Yurok of northern California and the Sioux of South Dakota helped formalize Erikson's ideas about identity development and identity crisis. Erikson described those going through an identity crisis as exhibiting confusion.
They often seem to have no idea who or what they are, where they belong or where they want to go. They may withdraw from normal life, not taking action or acting as they usually would at work, in their marriage or at school. They may even turn to negative activities, such as crime or drugs, as a way of dealing with identity crisis. To someone having an identity crisis, it is more acceptable to them to have a negative identity than none at all.
Erikson felt that peers have a strong impact on the development of ego identity during adolescence. He believed that association with negative groups such as cults or fanatics could actually "redistrict" the developing ego during this fragile time. The basic strength that Erikson found should develop during adolescence is fidelity, which only emerges from a cohesive ego identity. Fidelity is known to encompass sincerity, genuineness and a sense of duty in our relationships with other people.
Erikson described identity as "a subjective sense as well as an observable quality of personal sameness and continuity, paired with some belief in the sameness and continuity of some shared world image. As a quality of unself-conscious living, this can be gloriously obvious in a young person who has found himself as he has found his communality. In him we see emerge a unique unification of what is irreversibly given—that is, body type and temperament, giftedness and vulnerability, infantile models and acquired ideals—with the open choices provided in available roles, occupational possibilities, values offered, mentors met, friendships made, and first sexual encounters.

Marcian theory and identity crises

James Marcia's research on identity statuses of adolescents also apply to Erickson's framework of identity crises in adolescents.
Identity foreclosure is an identity status which Marcia claimed is an identity developed by an individual without much choice. "The foreclosure status is when a commitment is made without exploring alternatives. Often these commitments are based on parental ideas and beliefs that are accepted without question. Identity foreclosure can attribute to identity crises in adolescents when the "security blanket" of their assumed identity is removed. These "foreclosed individuals often go into crisis, not knowing what do to do without being able to rely on the norms, rules, and situations to which they have been accustomed. An example of this would be a son of a farmer who learns that his father is selling the farm, and whose identity as an heir to a farm and the lifestyle and identity of a farmer has been shaken by that news.
Identity diffusion is a Marcian identity status that can lead to identity crises in adolescents. Identity diffusion can be described as "the apathetic state that represents the relative lack of both exploration and commitment. Identity diffusion can overlap with diagnoses such as schizophrenia and depression, and can best be described as a lack of identity structure. An example of an identity crisis emerging from this status is an adolescent who becomes recluse after his identity as a star athlete is destroyed by a serious injury.
Identity moratorium is the status that Marcia theorizes last the longest in individuals, be the most volatile, and can be best described as "the active exploration of alternatives. Individuals experiencing identity moratorium can be very open-minded and thoughtful but also in crisis over their identity. An example of this would be a college student who lacks conviction in their future after changing majors multiple times but still cannot seem to find their passion.
Identity achievement is the resolution to many identity crises. Identity achievement occurs when the adolescent has explored and committed to important aspects of their identity.