About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, June 1, 2014

The Socially Common public Discrimination of Adopted Child & Adult Adoptee Population


The Discrimination Against Adopted Children and Adult Adoptees

Adoptee Discrimination in the U.S.
The discrimination that adopted children are first exposed to is the discrimination of the adoptive family's Social discrimination
The adoptive family is reluctant to accept the outsider alien child, but the adoptive mother's demands to possess the adoptive child are serious. When conditions are met and the adoptive relation is a conditional relationship viewed by the husband, immediate and extended family as temporary. The adoptive father is forced into position by the constant complaining, demanding and sexual relation refusal of the mother until the father submits. The father's relationship is ambiguous, indifferent and dependent on the mother's in person favor.   In biological children, the husband and wife's relationships become stressed and change into familiar acceptance of each other, as the birth of the child changes the father from sexual conquest to familiar cooperation. But the survival of the offspring is the driving force for the mother-child bond which is tolerable to the father. The father's acceptance of a non-biological child to take away his wife's attention is met with great resistance, then to resentment of the child.
The adoptive mother attempts to compensate with the reproductive failure in the care of the adopted child until she looses interest and moves on to another more self fulfilling task. At this point the adopted child is expected to parent himself and not burden the mother or her husband, and extended family. The family's behavior as a group of not accepting the outsider child is reflected by the community aware that the outsider child is among them. The adopted child's conduct, flaws and difference is a frequent topic of the community conversation, especially when the rejected child is acting out of abandonment behavior, then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.  The general consensus is expect the problem child to behave erratic, and the child does what is expected by the discriminating community.
Because the adopted child is a social stigma of a mentally damaged problem child, he is treated accordingly by community.
The social stigma of child adoption is the ungrateful child will eventually bring dishonor, shame and damage to the continuity of the biological family and be exiled and banished from the community.  
The Adopted Child Is Not Trustworthy, Will Never Fit In and 
was abandoned by his own birth mother, therefore is a damaged individual capable of bringing great anguish on a community.
The prejudiced behavior of the society that labeled the child illegitimate at birth, believes the bastard child possesses no real worth and is a sub class of human being that will always be dependent on the system that supports him. The society that places the judgement  of deficit on the nature of the population of unwanted children uses laws to restrict the rights of the adopted child to sub human standards. The U.S. Legal Discrimination Laws Against the Adopted Child Population of Legal Adult Adoptees, Is in place to keep the adopted children in their place, a lacking basic human rights sub-class of state and federal dependency within American society. The populations of adult adoptees can be found overcrowding prisons and jails,  they fill to capacity mental and medical hospitals, and exhaust local welfare and police resources or end their lives in suicide. This population's discrimination is for their own good and to limit the further damage and impacts of the average adoptee's on our upstanding citizens and society.  
Discrimination is the prejudicial treatment of an individual or group based on their actual or perceived membership in a certain group or category, "in a way that is worse than the way people are usually treated". It involves the group's initial reaction or interaction, influencing the individual's actual behavior towards the group or the group leader, restricting members of one group from opportunities or privileges that are available to another group, leading to the exclusion of the individual or entities based on logical or irrational decision making. (As In Adoptive Children Wanting To Know Who They Are)

Discriminatory traditions, policies, ideas, practices, and laws exist in many countries and institutions in every part of the world, even in ones where discrimination is generally looked down upon. In some places, controversial attempts such as quotas or affirmative action have been used to benefit those believed to be current or past victims of discrimination—but have sometimes been called reverse discrimination themselves.


Moral philosophers have defined discrimination as disadvantageous treatment or consideration. This is a comparative definition. An individual need not be actually harmed in order to be discriminated against. He or she just needs to be treated worse than others for some arbitrary reason. If someone decides to donate to help orphan children, but decides to donate less, say, to black children out of a racist attitude, he or she will be acting in a discriminatory way even though people he discriminates against are actually benefitted by having some money donated to them.
Based on realistic-conflict theory and social-identity theory, Rubin and Hewstone have highlighted a distinction among three types of discrimination:
  1. Realistic competition is driven by self-interest and is aimed at obtaining material resources (e.g., food, territory, customers) for the in-group (e.g., favouring an in-group in order to obtain more resources for its members, including the self).
  2. Social competition is driven by the need for self-esteem and is aimed at achieving a positive social status for the in-group relative to comparable out-groups (e.g., favouring an in-group in order to make it better than an out-group).
  3. Consensual discrimination is driven by the need for accuracy, and reflects stable and legitimate intergroup status hierarchies (e.g., favouring a high-status in-group because it is high status).
The United Nations stance on discrimination includes the statement: "Discriminatory behaviors take many forms, but they all involve some form of exclusion or rejection. International bodies United Nations Human Rights Council work towards helping ending discrimination around the world.



Ageism or age discrimination is discrimination and stereotyping based on the grounds of someone's age. It is a set of beliefs, norms, and values which used to justify discrimination and/or subordination based on someone's age. Ageism is most often directed towards old people, or adolescents and children. (As in lack of children's rights in the U.S.)
Age discrimination in hiring has been shown to exist in the U.S.. Joanna Lahey, professor at The Bush School of Government and Public Service at Texas A&M, found that firms are more than 40% more likely to interview a young adult job applicant than an older job applicant.
In a survey for the University of Kent England, 29% of respondents stated that they had suffered from age discrimination. This is a higher proportion than for gender or racial discrimination. Dominic Abrams, social psychology professor at the university, concluded that Ageism is the most pervasive form of prejudice experienced in the UK population.

Discriminated Populations: Elderly, Children, Adolescents, Racial, Ethnic or Cultural Groups, Religious Affiliations, Sexual Affiliation: Gay, Lesbian & Transsexual, Where a group was born or not born. 

In Adoption Discrimination there are many Angles of adoption prejudices:

#1. The assumption that the adopted child is illegitimate, or assumed a bastard because the parents were not married.
#2. The Assumption that the biological parents were stupid, slut behavior or sexual promiscuous mother- (never Father), #3. The assumption that the biological parents were alcoholic or drug abusing.
#4. A generally negative assignment of the biological parent by adoptive families and society in general.

In Adopted Children prejudice against the child that do not resemble their adoptive family, is labeled the black sheep and is assumed to be a troubled teen.