About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

The Predictable Identity Crisis A Constant Within the Adopted


The Predictable Identity Crisis, A Constant Within the Adopted __________________________________________

Identity crisis, according to psychologist Erik Erikson,                           is the failure to achieve ego identity during adolescence.
In adopted children and in adolescence the child's psychological and cognitive reasoning become stressed, uncomfortable and unrelenting ambiguity regarding the birth certificate identity and the adoption legal identity change. The adolescent adopted child's attempt to "satisfy the adoptive parent Identity" and the defense mechanism "coping Identity" and the conflict between who the child presently is without the presence of the adoptive parents, and who the adoptee was, can be, or could be in his secret life that the adoptee keeps from everyone. The adoptee will attempt to reduce the cognitive dissonance that he feels and  overwhelms his brain with truth., By denying his own needs, desires and truths, the adopted child will exhaust effort to please the adoptive parents, who demand his daily proof of allegiance and continued support in the adoptive family continues at the child's expense of identity formation. The adoptee will put off true identity for some future time that will never be convenient, until the very core of the adopted child's being is in question, crisis or too late, psychopathy. 

The stage of psychosocial development in which identity crisis may occur is called the Identity Cohesion versus Role Confusion stage. During this stage (adolescence), we are faced with physical growth, sexual maturation, and integrating our ideas of ourselves and about what others think of us and in the adopted child, the continued existence of two identities, one that must be kept hidden from parents.  We therefore form our self-image and endure the task of resolving the crisis of our basic ego identity. Successful resolution of the crisis depends on one’s progress through previous developmental stages centering on issues such as trust, autonomy, and initiative. When there is no parental trust, autonomy or the parent's lack of acceptance of the adolescent adult's progress, status, Identity formation can not occur in normal age appropriate development.


Those who emerge from the adolescent stage of personality development with a strong sense of identity are well equipped to face adulthood with confidence and certainty. This sort of unresolved crisis leaves individuals struggling to “find themselves.” They may go on to seek a negative identity, which may involve crime or drugs or the inability to make defining choices about the future. “The basic strength that should develop during adolescence is fidelity, which emerges from a cohesive ego identity”.
Erikson's own interest in identity began in childhood. born Ashkenazic Jewish, Erikson felt that he was an outsider. His later studies of cultural life among the Yurok of northern California and the Sioux of South Dakota helped formalize Erikson's ideas about identity development and identity crisis. Erikson described those going through an identity crisis as exhibiting confusion.
They often seem to have no idea who or what they are, where they belong or where they want to go. They may withdraw from normal life, not taking action or acting as they usually would at work, in their marriage or at school. They may even turn to negative activities, such as crime or drugs, as a way of dealing with identity crisis. To someone having an identity crisis, it is more acceptable to them to have a negative identity than none at all.
Erikson felt that peers have a strong impact on the development of ego identity during adolescence. He believed that association with negative groups such as cults or fanatics could actually "redistrict" the developing ego during this fragile time. The basic strength that Erikson found should develop during adolescence is fidelity, which only emerges from a cohesive ego identity. Fidelity is known to encompass sincerity, genuineness and a sense of duty in our relationships with other people.
Erikson described identity as "a subjective sense as well as an observable quality of personal sameness and continuity, paired with some belief in the sameness and continuity of some shared world image. As a quality of unself-conscious living, this can be gloriously obvious in a young person who has found himself as he has found his communality. In him we see emerge a unique unification of what is irreversibly given—that is, body type and temperament, giftedness and vulnerability, infantile models and acquired ideals—with the open choices provided in available roles, occupational possibilities, values offered, mentors met, friendships made, and first sexual encounters.

Marcian theory and identity crises

James Marcia's research on identity statuses of adolescents also apply to Erickson's framework of identity crises in adolescents.
Identity foreclosure is an identity status which Marcia claimed is an identity developed by an individual without much choice. "The foreclosure status is when a commitment is made without exploring alternatives. Often these commitments are based on parental ideas and beliefs that are accepted without question and forced on the child.  Identity foreclosure can attribute to identity crises in adolescents when the "security blanket" of their assumed identity is removed. These "foreclosed individuals often go into crisis, not knowing what do to do without being able to rely on the norms, rules, and situations to which they have been accustomed. An example of this would be a son of a farmer who learns that his father is selling the farm, and whose identity as an heir to a farm and the lifestyle and identity of a farmer has been shaken by that news.
Identity diffusion is a Marcian identity status that can lead to identity crises in adolescents. Identity diffusion can be described as "the apathetic state that represents the relative lack of both exploration and commitment. Identity diffusion can overlap with diagnoses such as schizophrenia and depression, and can best be described as a lack of identity structure. An example of an identity crisis emerging from this status is an adolescent who becomes recluse after his identity as a star athlete is destroyed by a serious injury.
Identity moratorium is the status that Marcia theorizes last the longest in individuals, be the most volatile, and can be best described as "the active exploration of alternatives. Individuals experiencing identity moratorium can be very open-minded and thoughtful but also in crisis over their identity. An example of this would be a college student who lacks conviction in their future after changing majors multiple times but still cannot seem to find their passion.
Identity achievement is the resolution to many identity crises. Identity achievement occurs when the adolescent has explored and committed to important aspects of their identity.
Which leads the adoptee in identity crisis not knowing what was real, what was coping, what did I like or what did I do well at? It is all a jumble of bad memories, and here I am at the wall of no direction or knowledge about who I am or Who Could I Be If I knew the right questions to ask myself?