The Adopted Child's Overwhelming Need To Escape
the Plight of Adoption
From the earliest foundation memory of this adopted child, I was made to believe that I did not belong, was not a valid member of the adoptive family and the drive, motivation and making mental plans to abandon my plight of being not wanted. I believe every adopted child that is not wanted and is stuck in an adoptive family that considers the adopted child a burden and financial drain. The adoptive parents can only see relief if the child gets married and becomes the burden to someone else.
The psychological manipulation, negative reinforcement and physical strikes and humiliation to punish the adopted child leaves the child in a perpetual state of confusion. The adopted child that is unable to please the adoptive parent, is the "deliberate action and disregard" by adoptive parent's to keep control of the adopted child, keeping the adopted child submissive and the adopted child to always live in fear of the adoptive parent, as the adoptive parent will not allow the adopted child to feel proud, or be proud of the adopted child because the adopted child is considered a lower cast, a lower social place, that is not worthy of the adoptive parent's praise, acknowledgement or even consideration by the adoptive parent.
Some family's that "made a goodwill attempt to society" to relieve the county's financial burden
and strain from unwanted children and regret the decision that ruined their biological family and marriages.
The narcissist women that adopted children due to their inability, infertility, and child death to obtain a temporary replacement to avoid the grieving process, or To receive social recognition, or to relieve the suffering from the Empty Nest, all in time realize the grave mistake they made in bringing an estranged, foreign and forever damaged child into the temporary mentally intact family. The psychologically unavailable adoptive mother
is too far mentally advanced in her cognitive reasoning to fall for "The Adoption Principle" of falling in love with a baby's cuteness. The adoption principle of cuteness is an unreliable hope of social service experts in the "Matching Process", where the biological mother, and adopting mother's self administered self assessment are created in a biased and wishful or fantasy self-concept that is the reflection of who the person aspires to be in a perfect world and not based on truth principles of the who the person is in real life. The matching process is an attempt to match the characteristics, behaviors, likes and dislikes of the biological mother to the adoptive mother and in principle should work, but no one has a clear self concept, no one would logically would disclose their personal inner frailties, and the adoption process merits "Yes Men" in the selection process to "Get A Baby", so they all lie.
The matching process is a fraud by biological and adopting mothers and the child is matched based on the lies of both parents resulting on a gross and negligent mis-matches. The adopting mother can not identify with the alien that is not her biological child,or speak the biological language of someone else's child.
The psychological rules of similarity in Identity apply to the adoptive mother and adopted child's expected inability to relate. The greatest danger to the adopted child's psychological well-being is especially at risk in adolescence where the child is attempting to form an identity, but can't due to the missing identification of the adopted child's true identity. The frustration causes behavior of anxiety, stress and depression, which is cause to abandon the child to a psychiatric hospital, being drugged or shock therapy.