Empathy Is Learned through the Mother's Diligent Care
In the psychological maltreated adopted child, does not get the world's welcome, hopes, respect or place in the world that belongs to the biological child. When the adopted child is born into the unmarried mother's shame, The grandparent's feel they have been publicly humiliated and feel shame at their daughter who has born an illegitimate child. The community that the child is born into is repulsed by the bastard child and may shun him. But the child is taken away from his only human tie and expected to adapt without compromise to the desires of strangers. The adoptive parent's motives are not to raise an independent self sufficient adult. The adoptive parent is fulfilling a personal defect, desire or reproductive flaw. The child is second best and sits at the end of the line waiting for left-overs or handouts of nurturing from strangers. Contrast to the normal happy occasion of the birth of a biological son. The highly regarded offspring will be protected, nurtured and held to the highest standards of care and emotional well-being. the child's psychological development through the parent's similarity seeking drive that is unconditional to the biological parent. The biological mother holds her child's importance above all others, including the child's father. The father now views the wife in a different way of the nurturer of his child. The father's biological offspring is a vital place in society, and raises the father's public perception as a man, husband and father roles. The child's mother is the nurturing center of the normal psychologically healthy family. The child offspring is protected and extremely well regarded by the extended family as the essentially important place of the third generation of the family.