Emotional Abuses In Adoption Reasoning
Because child adoption is not In the best interest of the child, and predictable damages occur at all stages of a child's normal development is morphed into dysfunctional coping defense mechanisms in adulthood and compromised well-being of life.
The Publicly Acknowledged Adoption Misconceptions,
Legal Child Abandonment Reasons:
1. Too Young, Late teen marriage were the norm.
When raising a child, a mother grows in experience. Being a mother brings responsibility and selfless behavior.
2. Financial Security, Financial resource opportunities fluctuate and change throughout peoples lives in the U.S., Financial security is a temporary state.
and financial security guarantees nothing.
Current Financial Wealth belonging to husband and wife may not last through their lifetime, A single healthcare emergency can bankrupt the health Insured family, to loose their home.
Parent's Income, savings and inheritance does not pay the children, children are expected to make their own living, pay for their own college.
3. Giving your child opportunities through adoption,
means nothing, adoption guarantees nothing and statistics of adopted children making it to college are a brutally low reality.
4. The Adoption Change of Mind
The 25% to 35% of adopted children that are sent back in adoption failure, dissolution, annulment. The adoptive parents are relieved of liability and the child suffers more psychological disturbances.
The worst situation possible for the child, adoption dissolution child is Re-Homed over the internet, outside of legal process and child safety measure.
5. Separating a child from it's mother at birth.
Primal wound to the child's foundation of socialization, destabilization and psychological
damage to the infant through adulthood. Loss of
true Identity and failure to integrate socially.
6. "Because She Loved You" She abandoned you to childhood foster care and eventually adoption.
No adopted child that I have ever met will buy this story. It is a fantasy told by the adoptive mother to diminish her own guilt and boost her own self esteem. The phrase does nothing for adopted children except make them act like they believe it for fear of being slapped in the face,
and punished for defiance by the dominating adoptive mother. Who also says things like "she
was/Is a slut" "Got knocked up" or "Because you were such a bad child your own mother didn't want to raise you".