The Selfish Parent's Responsibility for Creating This Dysfunctional Family
The psychology of borderline and/or narcissistic parenting "Creating their own Mess"
The Consequences of Selfish Compulsive Parent's
The dysfunctional home is created by selfish parents
who act impulsively "In-the-moment"
(I am Bored, Going to the bar)
to temporarily satisfy their desires, wants and wishes. (Mother: I want to get drunk, party, gamble at the race track, have an affair, etc.)
The parent acts without consideration of their spouse,( Causing Jealousy, marital fight erupting)
(alone, mother is at the bar, upset at the parent's fighting)
or the consequences from their actions.
(Mother spend all the money at the bar)
The parent's compulsive behavior contributes to the chaotic setting of the home,
(The house is a mess, no adult watching the kids) lack of resources available to the children in the home,
(No Food,No Milk,No Mom)
the cycle of psychological and physical abuse
(guilty parent shifting blame by punishing children for being hungry or dirty, blaming the dirty house on the kids)
resulting from the aftermath of the parent's compulsive actions.
Behavior that has no routine, dependability or adult presence at. There is no guarantee of the basic necessities of food, clean clothing and shelter. The "shelter" of the home may change at any moment by eviction or the child is kicked out of the family home through exploding parental anger.
(What the children can depend upon is chaos)
mother is the puppet master
the matriarch of the family is the authority over behavior