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Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
Thursday, May 8, 2014
"The Motherhood Constellation"
ADOPTEE RAGE! "The Motherhood Constellation" ___________________________________________________________ Unknown to Adopted Children the secrets of the Motherhood Constellation
The motherhood constellation is a concept coined by Psycholoanalyst Daniel N. Sternto describe the mental organization in which the childis most prominent. It is the primary caregiver's ownbiological readinessstate. Dr. D.W. Winnicottreferred to this state as biological mother'sprimary maternal preoccupation.
Dr. Daniel N. Stern has spent much of his research on what it means to become a biological mother and how this influences the development of the child.
In his (1998) book, The Motherhood Constellation, Stern explains how new mothers create a "motherhood constellation" a continuation from pregnancy becoming biologically intuitive, mental and physical connection to their newborn offspring. This new mind-set, depending on the individual, personality and culture, forms a 'unique self-regulating-system, the motherhood constellation, which emerges during pregnancy and may last for many months to many years. During this intuitive period of motherhood bond, a Mother's self-regard is organised around the care of her baby, the baby's well being, and the mother-child's mutual connection to each other. The mother becomes biologically driven, voluntarily consumed and propelled to the protection, happiness and comfort of her offspring. The constellation may become less over time as the child grows into adulthood but the biologically supplied urge of the motherhood constellation will never disappear. Example: When the child is in danger, The maternal drive will be reactivated immediately to assist the child as necessary.
To be able to face the stressor of protecting her child, the mother needs what Winnicott termed a holding environment: an environment that will provide a psychologically framing in which she feels validated, encouraged and supported, as in the (Biological Maternal Drive) providing the chemical dialog of hormone based exchanges between the mother-child., As seen in "mirroring" that provide the surges of energy (from the maternal hormonal drive) to action as needed in each particular situation that may arise. Using this context, the mother is able to explore and develop her intuitive maternal response and behavior with her child. A new mother during pregnancy will start forming her "Maternal Matrix". The mother's intuitive awareness and communication with her child's messages, in non-verbal communication. The child and mother are not only biologically linked, the child is a part of the mother continuing from pregnancy and birth. The mother-child attunement, consistent loving maternal response, continuous positive interaction, positive non-verbal and physical responding far beyond meeting the child's basic needs. The maternal bond between mother and child share the single most important, vital to an infant's survival of the monumental relationship known as the maternal bond.
Activation of the motherhood constellation means for the new mother that 'any childhood cruelty, consequences, abuse, issues from the pregnant women's childhood she has concerning mothering and her own experience of being mothered will come to the forefront'.
For the adopted child becoming a parent is a foreign, unknown and feared experience. Those who have not experienced a mother caregiver or have experienced a cruel mother in their childhoods should expect the worst outcomes, without psychotherapy the abused child will abuse their own offspring.
Where appropriate, therapy for the new mother can help modify and re-shape the motherhood constellation by offering 'an array of possible positive mothering behaviors, responding to the infant techniques for the mother to learn. 'The mother's engagement in the therapeutic relationship provides her with several other possible mother scenarios that she could realistically be or become and with several other mother malbehaviors she could stop being or avoid becoming'.