The bored narcissist takes a new project.
In normal families, the 'Maternal Investment' is fueled by the mother's 'maternal drive' insuring that her offspring's survival in growing into maturity. We observe the feeling of sadness in our children reach maturity and go out into the world, but also joy at the prospect of the mother's and father's future time to pursuit our own goals and motivations. Some mothers see this time as a loss of control over the children, a loss of the family that was and a uncomfortable feeling about of the loss of the past family unit. This ability to grieve for what was and go on is normal psychological health, though temporary uncomfortable. The controlling narcissistic mother does not like to feel a loss of control, the public's perception that she is weakened, or the temporary feeling of grief that goes with change or circumstances. The narcissist mother will not stand for such a public perception of her weakness and worse the public perception of "Getting Old" that accompanies children going off into the world. The narcissist will devise a plan to replenish her youth and restore her "Mother" status with an award winning devise to adopt a child and save a child from himself. The mother's status will be restored and the public perception will grow into hero status. Although she is not interested in revisiting carpools, teacher conferences or diaper changes the narcissist mother acts on impulse to acquire a child to fulfill all of her voids. The child will suffer the narcissist's ownership and become like a piece of jewelry she may sometimes wear to show off her wealth and status.