About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Friday, May 16, 2014

"The Adopted Child Behavior Based on Being Taken From One's Family, Adopted Child Syndrome Explained


Adopted Child Behavior Resulting Consequences from Being Taken From One's Family.
Adopted Child Syndrome Explained  ___________________________________________

Adopted child syndrome is a controversial term that has been used to explain behaviors in adopted children that are related to their adoptive status. 
Specifically, these include problems in: 
1.) Bonding & Attachment:   The severed Mother-Child Attachment Bond is a critical foundation for present and future consequences, regardless of the adoption related circumstances, the problems still occur to the child.
2.) Lying:  The adopted child Is expected to lie about who he is to please the adoptive parents (adoption name change), community and  the world. The disreputable behavior that is acceptable in the United States of "changing a child's existing name to a new name that suits the adoptive parent's goal of erasing the child's real identity. The creating of a more suitable identity that is acceptable the adopting parents.
The false Identity of the adopted child and the real identity that is kept specifically from the adopted child, but the child is aware of the existence of a real identity. The child's compliance with the new identity is in his cognitive awareness, lying to the world. The foundation of the child's identity is a lie, how is the child to comprehend or differentiate between what lies are good or bad, acceptable or unacceptable when not telling the truth. 
3.) Stealing, goes hand in hand with lying and both are based on the child's inability to trust the adoptive parents, as the adoptive parents do not trust their adopted child to the extent that they had to change his name to protect themselves from the child's natural urges and biological drives to know who his real identity. 
4.) Defiance of authority  A) Parent Authority B) Society's Authority 
A) Abusive Adoptive Parent.
As the abusive adopted mother can not make a considerable maternal investment in the non-biological child. The view of being a parent's burden, financial weight, strain and drain,  encumbrance of personal space leaves the illegitimate adopted child perpetually feeling mentally stressed and in continuous fear of the adoptive mother's mood changes and overreactions to simple normal child behavior. The more the adoptive mother exaggerates the bad adopted child's behavior, the shred of self esteem that the child once gained is now lost and fearful. The adoptive mother broadcasts her critical perception of the flawed child to all who will not challenge her opinions. The gossip churns like a vomiting stomach as the child hears the mother retelling the story with each phone call. How the adopted child disrupted everyday life is told again to family, friends, social groups, and strangers. The mother's extended groups and community become the enemy in the child's eyes. Due to the tremendous importance the mother places on her relationships
with these people and not on the adopted child. The authority becomes everyone teachers, babysitters anyone that gives the mother an accounting of the child, is the reason the child will be punished each time. No one will stand up to the bully who is the mother, and the child has no one on their side ever. The perceived authority figures did not help the adopted child against the bully, infact the authorities contributed to the bully mother's power against the adopted child.
Authority defiance is based on the adoptive parent's lack of nurturing the unrelated adopted child. Instead nurtures others, Animals, objects. The adopted child's view of the bully parent is reflected hatred of mother's authority over the child and branches out in other positions of authority.   
B.) Society's Authority:
To the adopted child, "The Authority of Society" is the group that holds all responsibility for taking baby's away from their mothers, labeling infants "Illegitimate" and punishing the children of the offenders for sexual indiscretions ( Being born out of wedlock - Second generation crime and punishment). Culture Religious Bigotry is the worst offending authority. The forcing of unrealistic beliefs, norms, and values on the general population of individuals that does not share those beliefs. The ignorant gossiping-judgmental subculture of old women that through small town contact, enforce through stereotyping, fear of difference and religious bigotry, bully people into submission of out-of-date norms, beliefs and values conform to avoid being the topic of local gossip. All sub-types of cultural authority are equally responsible for humanity's worst crime- "The loss of a child". Though the lost child is the individual that suffers the most. Authority in general can not be trusted, especially with the life of a human child. Children are the innocence in the eyes of the world, and through this ignorant, selfish and greed based society, children are bought, sold and destroyed for the amusement of those that buy them.
5.) Acts of violence.
James W. Prescott (born c. 1930)                                                        is an American developmental psychologist, whose research focused on "The origins of Violence", particularly as it relates to a lack of the mother-child maternal bond. 

History of the term Adopted Child Syndrome

David Kirschner, who coined the term, says that most adoptees are not disturbed and that the syndrome only applies to the group of adopted children represented in clinical the clinical setting, The clinical setting of in patient psychiatric hospital or psychologist's office "Is the last ditch effort in the attempt to do something with an adopted child." In reality, all adopted children should have a licensed clinical psychologist and meet on a regular basis, For the adopted child to have a reliable connection to the world for the 18 year duration of the adoption contract. 

Psychologist Betty Jean Lifton, herself an adopted person, has written extensively on psychopathology in adopted people, primarily in Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience, and Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness and briefly discusses Adopted child syndrome.
Judith and Martin Land, Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child, (2011), identity, genealogical bewilderment, oppositional defiant disorder, selective mutism, anti-social behavior, the primal wound and other related terms to describe potential effects of adoption on children who are orphaned, fostered, or adopted.
Although these problems and issues are not seen or reported in the general population of biological children......Just Accepted.