Examining The "Psychology of the Self" Of Normal Non-Corrupted Individuals, As Adoptees and Adopted Children Have No Prospective of what It Is To Be Normal.
Taking the Information and Applying the principles of "Psychology of the Self"...
.... The Reinvention of the Broken Adoptee to the Restored Individual's True Identity.
Two Different Categories:
"Psychology of Self" Not to be Confused with "Self Psychology"
- 'At the pathological end of the continuum the false self acts as if it were the real person, the true self remaining concealed, only a virtual possibility. However, the false self always lacks "... something essential, socially, the person is perceived as false.
- Less severely, the false self protects the true self, which remains unactualised - for Winnicott a clear example of a clinical condition organised for the positive goal of preservating the individual in spite of abnormal environmental conditions of the environment.
- Closer to health, the false self supports the individual's search for conditions that will allow the true self to recover its well-being - its own identity.
- Even closer to health, we find the false self "... established on the basis of identifications".
- In a healthy person, the false self is composed of that which facilitates "... a polite social behavior, good manners and a certain reserve. It is this essential courtesy that makes possible life in society: 'the false self acts to allow smooth passage through the world by inducing appropriate and socially acceptable ways of expressing love and hate.
Berne's transactional analysis
- The parent ego consists of borrowed behaviors and feelings from previous caregivers. The parent ego can consist of either the Nurturing or Critical Parent. The Nurturing Parent contains a more loving nature, whereas the Critical (or Prejudiced) Parent consists of preconceived ideas, thoughts, and behaviors learned from previous parents or caregivers. Some of this information can be beneficial, while others are not.
- The adult ego is otherwise known as our data-processing center. This ego state is able to judge information based on facts, rather than emotions or preconceived beliefs.
- The child ego is identified as the state that holds all of our memories, emotions, and feelings. People carry this ego state with them all of the time and can reflect back on it at any time. This state can also be divided into two segments: the Free (or Natural) child and the Adapted (and/or Rebellious) child. The Free child represents spontaneity, creativity, and a direct way of perceiving the world. Intimate relationships are able to form due to a person’s contact with their own inner child. The less people are in touch with their inner child, the less they are able to form intimate relationships with other people. The Adapted child is the state in which people are able to comply and respond with parental commands and messages. If a parental command is viewed as too strong and demanding, a child ego can rebel against it, which is why this state can also become the Rebellious Child.
Critiques of the concept
Memory and the self
Self as an emergent phenomena
Parts of the self
- Self-awareness can be divided into two categories: private self-awareness and public self-awareness. Private self-awareness is defined as the self looking inward at oneself, including emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and feelings. All of these cannot be discovered by anyone else. Public self-awareness is defined by gathering information about your self through the perceptions of others. The actions and behaviors that others show towards a person will help that person establish a sense of how others perceive them. For example, if a person likes to sing, however many other people discourage their singing, that person can conclude that they might not be the best at singing. Therefore, in this situation, they are gaining public self-awareness about an aspect of themselves.
- Like the fictional Peter Pan, the adopted child will never grow up in the eyes or delusions of the adoptive parents.
- The adopted child and adult adoptee live in a perpetual delusional state. The benefit to the adopted parents as the adopted child performs (act) their role as the "Grateful" adopted child because they have No choice. The injustice of being forced to be something and someone that you are not to Not be rejected by the adoptive parent or adoptive family. The cognitive growth in awareness brings with it the misery of the adopted child's truth and the reality of the Adoption Paradox is understood by the adolescent adopted child. More difficult is the adolescent's ability to continue the charade or performance for the adoptive parents. As the psychological Investment (of the adoptive parents) in the child is temporary, not enduring and their tolerance of the adopted child's behavior will not grow into respect (as a biological child's accomplishments are seen as stages of adult accomplishments worthy of support, nurturing and adult - to - adult respect) The adoptive parent's delusion that the adopted child is the helpless, homeless, needy adopted child forever, and will never achieve the adoptive parent's respect for accomplishment. As the adopted parent's delusion must stay as it always has been they did not adopt an educated person, they did not adopt a college student and they did not adopt a Independent person. For the adoptive parents to bring in an outsider they created the entire performance that does not change, grow or evolve. The thought of bringing in an outsider, a stranger, homeless adult into a private family's home to live with them and pretend he is their son is not a likely scenario. But to bring in a child create his child identity, and keep his true identity from him will keep him hostage and indebted to the adoptive parent as he knows no other way of life and does not know his own name. His purpose is to give child-like appearances and act the way the adoptive parents had trained him. He will always be the homeless child that the adoptive parent's saved him from him self.
- Self Esteem describes how a person evaluates their self positively or negatively. Four factors that contribute to self-esteem are the reactions we get from other people, how we compare people to ourselves, social roles, and our identification. Our social roles can sometimes be conceived as higher intelligence or ability, such as an Olympic athlete or biotechnologist. Other social roles might be stigmatized as being negative, such as a criminal or homeless person. People with high self-esteem view their selves as containing good traits. They are more willing to take more risks and aim for success. People with high self-esteem tend to be confident, gain self-acceptance, do not worry as much as what others think about them, and think more optimistically. Many people think that a person with low self-esteem would contain more negative views of their self, however it is just that the presence of good traits is minimal to absent. It is rare for a person to rate their overall self as being terrible. People with low self-esteem typically:
- do not wish to fail
- are less confident in their success rate
- have confused and diverged notions about their self (self-concept confusion)
- focus on self-protection more so than self enhancement
- are more prone to emotional imbalances
- are less confident about their success than high self-esteemed people
- worry what others think about them consistently
- have more pessimistic thinking
- desire to resemble others more than high self-esteemed people
- Our self-concept entails the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that each of us uniquely foster. However, many psychologists have questioned whether our self-concept is more realistic or filled with Illusions about ourselves and the world around us. Clinical psychologists have studied depressed people with perceived low self-esteem in order to observe if their perceptions were fabricated or not. On the contrary of their hypothesis, they found that depressed people have a more realistic view of the world, the qualities they obtain, and the control they have over situations in their life. It was proposed by psychologists Shelley Taylor and Jonathon Brown that the majority of people in normal-functioning mental states display and are instilled with positive Illusions including:
- overestimating their own good qualities
- their control over happenings in their life
- an unrealistic portrayal of optimism
- Positive illusions remain constant for the majority of one’s life due to self-deception. Self Deception strategies are mental tricks of a person’s mind that hide the truth and constitute false beliefs. Due to self-deception, people are able to obtain resiliency upon negative events that might occur throughout life. This also can reinforce different ideas or thoughts that the person wishes and hopes for. The self-serving bias is a strategy in which a person titles acknowledgment for success and rejects blame for failure. For example, a person who wins a track meet would glorify their ability as an athlete. However, if that person were to come in last in the meet, the person would most likely put blame on constituting factors such as a muscle cramp or previous injury preventing a good performance. Another strategy that people use is greater criticism involving bad feedback rather than good. A person would judge a situation more harshly when they did worse, while the opposite would occur for a situation that entailed good feedback.