The U.S. Greed-Based Consensus of "Blame The Adopted Child"
The beginning of a child adoption is motivated by a person's mental illness or medical problem that prevents the woman from bearing her own natural offspring. This assault to her ego, public image and how she believes life has been unfair to her.
The woman who is scorned by her own world, will not tolerate
the limits of her own lacking biology. She will buy a child to have the last world and save her ego's public humiliation, to show her community that she is worthy of motherhood when she takes it by force. Not many husbands grow up to plan on adopting a child, child adoption is against the laws of a man's nature, against the laws of anthropology and far against the principal of a man's biological drive to secure and replicate in his offspring.
Women are the perpetrators of child adoption traffic and make the demand to adopt outside offspring and force the issue temporarily. As time passes the realities of difference will build the walls that keep the adopted child outside of the family's reality to become the blame for all of the parent's problems.
The adopted child is forever the outsider to the adopted family,
the perpetual deposit of blame, anger and hostility for all that goes wrong in a parent's life. Whatever the parent's problem-Is the motivation for adopting the child and the parent's problem will be ignored and displaced on the child as a daily reminder of the parent's medical or personal problem for the life of the parent. The adoptive parent's ignoring of their own personal problems will bring a plague of hate upon the adopted child.
The child becomes the manifestation of the parent's life dissatisfaction and blame for all the parent's mistakes.
The child is trained and becomes accustomed to taking all of the parent's hostility, anger and rage for being "second rate".
The position of second-rate is all the adopted child knows and is a comforting position of relatedness to the adoptive parent.
The adopted child welcomes criticism without protest as trained and shrinks in fear to the adopted parent's wrath of anger.
As the adopted child grows into maturity and drastically different in physical appearance the parent no longer recognize the adopted child from early childhood. The pronounced physical differences gives the parent conflicting memories of the stereotypical child appearance and now the emerging stranger child who is the shell of that familiar child becomes the enemy of all the parent's predictions that the child never belonged in the family to begin. The adoptive parent's hatred of the difference pushes the child far away and the child becomes estranged from the family. The parent's unconscious, conscious and verbal abuse hatred for the different child makes the absent child the blame in public to AGAIN save the adoptive parent from public ridicule. The parent verbally bashes the absent adoptee to friends and family on a grand scale of spreading gossip about the trouble and inconvenience the bad adopted child has put the adoptive family through. The adoptive parent is now the recipient of the public pity awards for taking in an ungrateful child who spit on the upstanding christian American family.
In the United States Culture of self-centered greed, adopting parents are seen as honorable, humanitarian family charities, worthy of parenting awards for their selfless donation of financial liability for 18 years to "Save A Child From Himself".
When the adopting parents have thrown the child away, they are again seen as heroes for tolerating ungrateful adopted child.